You have to know someone intimately to be familiar with the desires of his or her heart.
And you have to be in close proximity to hear your friend express a quiet wish.
But it takes more than intimacy, and more than proximity, to move you to sacrifice your own priorities in favour of those of your friend.
Only love will move you to lay down your life.
Such was the love of three of David’s mighty men who were close enough to hear him say, “Oh, that someone would get me a drink of water from the well near the gate of Bethlehem!”
Unbidden, the three warriors broke through enemy lines at risk of their lives to fulfil David’s wish. (2 Samuel 23:13-17)
How to Have Intimacy With The Holy Spirit
Those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires. (Romans 8:5)
There is a lot of talk about the Holy Spirit in Christian circles today.
Many of us have a great longing to see the Holy Spirit move, or for His power to be released to bring healing, deliverance, signs and miracles.
Kathryn Kuhlman once said,
‘There are literally thousands and thousands in the great charismatic movement who have never become acquainted with the person of the Holy Spirit, only with His gifts.’ [1]
And sadly, that statement is as true today as it was then.
So the question I am asking of you and myself today in response to this statement is, ‘Are you one of the many—the ‘thousands and thousands’—or one of the few?’
Many times we talk about ‘using’ the gifts of the Holy Spirit.
But there is another way of life possible—where we allow the Holy Spirit to ‘use’ us.
This way of living is only going to happen when we give Him leadership of our lives.
- When we so value His Presence with us, and the relationship that we have with Him, that we cannot bear for anything to come between us.
- When we are listening, ready for the sound of His voice
- When we have so become attuned to Him as a Person—to His desires and what grieves and pleases Him…
…that we will respond accordingly [2].
The Fellowship of the Spirit
May the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ and the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you. (2 Cor 13:14)
The Holy Spirit is the third Person of the Trinity—God living in and with us.
He is not merely an impersonal power. The New Testament reveals the Spirit to be a Person with will, mind and emotions.
As well as empowering us, the Holy Spirit communicates and fellowship with us. He guides, teaches, helps, assures and comforts us. [3]
The Holy Spirit is God up close and personal.
The Ungrieved Presence of the Holy Spirit
And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. (Eph 4:30)
Many years ago I read the story of a Chinese scholar-turned-pastor called Hsi [4]. It made a lasting impression upon me.
Pastor Hsi ministered deliverance to a troubled young man called K’ong at a conference.
A missionary who saw Hsi minister in the power of the Spirit pressed a large sum of money into his hands, as a gift towards his ministry.
Hsi received the cash without praying as to whether or not he should accept it. Immediately he felt uncomfortable.
As he went to pray about the matter, Hsi heard cries as the demonised man became uncontrollable once more.
No longer fearing Hsi, the demons in K’ong taunted him, saying ‘You have no power to control me any more.’
Realising that his soul’s response to the money had affected his ability to minister in the Spirit, Hsi went to the donor and returned the cash. He confessed that the sudden possession of a large sum of money had ‘come between his soul and God.’
Immediately he went to where K’ong was causing the commotion and quietly commanded the demons to be quiet and leave—with immediate and effective results.
Pastor Hsi later summed up this painful lesson with the words,
‘The ungrieved presence of the Holy Spirit is more to be desired than abundance of gold and silver.’
7 Ways To Begin An Intimate Relationship With The Holy Spirit
Or do you suppose that the Scripture is speaking to no purpose that says, The Spirit Whom He has caused to dwell in us yearns over us and He yearns for the Spirit [to be welcome] with a jealous love? (James 4:5, AMP)
I want to have the kind of relationship with the Holy Spirit that Kathryn Kuhlman experienced—and that Hsi valued.
If this kind of relationship with the One who is God present with you, the Holy Spirit, is what you want, here are some steps to help you move closer to Him:
1. Realise that such a relationship—fellowship with the Holy Spirit—is possible
2. Hunger and thirst for intimacy with Him
3. Learn all you can about the Holy Spirit. Study His role, purpose, names, likes and dislikes from Scripture
4. Pray—ask to know Him more and for Him to fill you
5. Make a decision to go deeper in your relationship with God—to be more available to Him
6. Desire sensitivity to the Holy Spirit—and begin to practice it
7. Allow God to put His finger on anything in your life that displeases the Holy Spirit—and deal with it
He anointed us, set his seal of ownership on us, and put his Spirit in our hearts as a deposit, guaranteeing what is to come. (2 Cor 1:21)
When I stand before the Father on that Day, He may ask me,
“What did you do with what I entrusted to you—your gifts and talents, your time, opportunities, relationships, and call?”
But there is another question He may ask that is currently challenging me:
“What did you do with the One I sent you?”
Notes:
[1] A Glimpse Into Glory, by Kathryn Kuhlman with Jamie Buckingham
[2] Recommended Reading: Romans 8
[3] Recommended Reading: John chapters 14-16
[4] From “One of China’s Scholars” by Howard Taylor
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© Helen Calder
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Helen Calder is a prophetic minister and writer, and founder of Enliven Ministries. Helen has a unique gift of equipping in prophetic ministry and prayer. She is known for Enliven Blog (est. 2009), an online resource that reaches thousands of people globally.
Thank you Angello, such a great thought. Our life with the Holy Spirit is one of partnership.
hi.. this site is really amazing.. thank you for the information about the Holy Spirit.. yea i really want to have a deep intimacy relationship with Him. all i know about Him, in the past few days, is He is just a loving Person. I came to know that He feels, gets hurt and the One who longs to have a fellowship with me though He knows that i’m unworthy for it. Wow.. i feel that He is the One my longs for.. He is the Lover of my soul. wish to see and touch Him. His love never fails. Praise be to God the Father, God the Son and the God the Holy Spirit. HALLELUJAH
Hi Sarah,
Yes how extraordinary is our loving God! I pray that you will know Him at a deeper level and enjoy communion with Him in a greater measure! Be blessed.
Oh gosh my heart melts reading this. Just recently I have had this desire to learn more about The Holy Spirit. I know The Holy Spirit is like “Ok Asia, time to get to know me more”. I have not received the Holy Spirit yet, I don’t speak in tongues but I do experience Holy laughter, the Joy of the LORD. I have been trying to receive the Holy Spirit and i cry when I don’t, sad I know. I have bought a book called “The Holy Spirit and His gifts”. I can’t wait to receive the Holy Ghost! I just bought 2 e-books, one about prophetic gifts and ane about the gift of discernment. I’m ready to learn and let the Holy Spirit, guide, counsel and teach me! It’s been months in the testing and wilderness period and I’m going to come out on top.
Last night at I read a few things about The Holy Spirit and the e-book about the gift of Discernment and the spirit of fear came after me and worse, something was twisting inside if me. My belly hurt, felt like a knife stabbing me and twisting. It hurt to touch my stomach. So I was extremely sleepy and wasn’t in the mood for the demonic crap so I prayed for healing. The more I prayed the more I hurt. And then something inside my body flipped or twisted and I was healed hallelujah! It was a relief! Then I dealt with that spirit cause like I said I was tired! I’m getting my mind off the enemy and on my creator!
Keep me in your prayers y’all. The demons are getting scared they sense the annouting! And I was afraid but if God be for us, who can stand against us?!
Well I received the Holy Ghost tonight! It’s not a full sentence yet bur hallelujah I learned to yeild! I’m so happy I’m dancing! And I am going to rejoin this Church called World Harvest. I can definitely grow there. Hallelujah!!!
Hi Asia, what awesome news. May you continue to grow in intimacy with Him and grow and rejoice in your beautiful new gift. :-)
The relationship with the Holy Spirit is the greatest gift one can ever have. All other gifts are as a result of that communion, because they will be under the control and direction of the Holy Spirit, who is our greatest gift, and out of whom other gifts are proceeding. Like the Master, Jesus, who said He is the true Vine and that without Him we cannot bear fruit. It’s only when we abide by Him that we’ll have a lasting fruit, it’s not wise to run with the other gifts and leave the Master behind, because God, as a Blesser, is far greater than any blessing that He can give to us. This is something God has been dealing with in my own life, and it has brought so much spiritual power, I testify. Sometimes we want this and that, and the Master is saying…,’Only one thing is needed’, not only that, but “Love summs up the whole law”.Let’s continually look unto the Lord and His strentgh, and let us seek His face always.
Thanks Helen!
Malabongwe you are so right. When I first found out I was a seer as a child, it went straight to my head and after awhile I knew it and I totally blocked out the seer business. But I was a kid about 10 maybe. I am now 20 and I have never lost my relationship with God but I did get off course and God reminded me who I am and I accepted it and I was eager to learn about what a seer does. And the test and trials have came and it was tough at first but I know now that it is all necessary. And instead of waiting to see a vision or interpret a dream or figure out exactly what gifts I have I just put my focus on God. And it’s been awesome! I figure when God wants me to do something or learn about a gift, The Holy Spirit will tell me, teach me, guide me. Lol I care about my ministry but at the moment with all the test and trials I just care about knowing about my Creator!
Hi and God bless you and this ministry abundantly. I found what I have read here so far to be quite encourageing and insightful. I am currently writing a book on the importance of a relationship with the Holy Spirit. I am asking if I might have your permission to use and or quote some of your writings. Please contact me at my gmail address [email protected]. Thank you and God bless
Hi Karen, that’s wonderful. I will email you shortly – if for some reasons you don’t receive my email, let me know back here.