The Orphan Mindset

In love he predestined us for adoption to sonship through Jesus Christ.
Ephesians 1:5

A story is frequently told of a baby eagle that fell out of its nest and became separated from its family.

A mother chicken took pity on the apparently orphaned eagle and raised the baby as her own.

As it grew, the young eagle pecked and shuffled along the ground along with its chicken siblings, having never learned that life could be any different.

One day it looked up at an eagle soaring high in the sky and marvelled…


As sons and daughters of a living God we should bear the family likeness and carry out the family business.

But we will never fulfil our potential or live a supernatural Christian life while we are living with an orphan mindset.

Until we do, we will live like the eagle in the story, believing that we are subject to limitations that do not exist.

We need to fully comprehend the Family that we belong to.

Recently I wrote a post entitled, ‘No Longer An Orphan: How I Discovered The Father’s Love.’

I have come to realise that it is possible to experience significant healing in this area, and yet still be restricted by orphan (Fatherless) thinking.

I can pay mental assent to the truth of my acceptance as a child of my Heavenly Father, and yet my feelings and responses sometimes reveal a deep-set belief that God has left me to live life alone and apart from Him.

Like other ‘strongholds’ in our minds [1], this way of thinking needs to be recognised and expelled from our lives and replaced with the truth of God’s Word.

So how do we recognise and deal with an orphan mindset?

In previous posts I have discussed the orphan spirit as it relates to our relationship with God as Father.Here are two further areas that I have been challenged over recently:


Signs of an Orphan Mindset

1. We have an orphan mindset when contemplating what God has called us to do continually makes us feel inadequate or afraid.

Jesus said,

I will ask the Father, and he will give you another advocate to help you and be with you forever—the Spirit of truth… I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you. (John 14:16,18)

An important aspect of ‘comprehending the Family that we belong to’ is being aware of the relationship of the Holy Spirit to us.

The reality is that we will never be or do what Father has called us to, without the Presence and enabling power of the Holy Spirit.

So why do we often feel alone?

Here are two questions to consider:

  • How would my life be different if I brought the reality of the Holy Spirit’s presence into the picture of my life?
  • How could I live if I took into account, not my own inability, but His ability, for every moment, every challenge, both present and future?

2. We have an orphan mindset when we believe that it is impossible to follow in Jesus’ steps.

Like the young eagle gazing at the eagle soaring in the sky, I look at the life of Jesus presented in the Gospels and wonder.

Can I really aspire to be like Him?

I know I am called to be a disciple—follower—of Jesus, my life a reflection of His.

Somehow, it is much easier to relate to the unlikely heroes of Scripture—those flawed and sinful people that God used to change history—than to Jesus.

And yet, Jesus’ life is the picture of what my life can look like.

The Apostle Paul puts it this way in Romans 8:29:

‘For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers and sisters.’

Or as Eugene H. Peterson puts it in ‘The Message,’
“We see the original and intended shape of our lives there in [Jesus]”(Rom 8:29)

As children of God, we are created in His image and share His family likeness—His DNA. The same Holy Spirit that anointed Jesus also lives in us.

We are called to be Jesus disciples—but orphan thinking will cause us to be His followers in name only.

To be a disciple of Jesus requires us to actually live with and to learn from Him in the same way that His disciples did in the Gospels.

This comes not only from Bible study, but also by living life with Him as a present and continual experience.

An orphan mindset and belief system will act as a veil that will keep us from encountering Jesus and having a face-to-face relationship with him.


Prayer to be Released from the Orphan Mindset

Perhaps you can identify with some of the struggles I have shared above. You might like to join me in this prayer:

Father, I am sorry for the times that I do not recognise and embrace the truth of my relationship to You—that I am your fully loved and fully accepted child.

I repent of the times I feel and act as though I am an orphan alone, when Jesus has paid the highest price of His life that I might be a member of your family.

I renounce [refuse to have any longer] the orphan mindset, with all of its lies, rejection and unbelief, especially… [include anything specific God has shown you]

I ask that by Your Spirit you will continue to expose and deal with any residue of orphan thinking in my life.

Thank You for the gift of new life and for receiving me into Your Family. I choose to believe the truth of who I am in relationship to You and who You are in relationship to me… [include any relevant scripture references here] 

Thank You for Your Spirit of Adoption, the Holy Spirit filling my life, saturating my heart and mind with the truth of who I am and Whose I am (Rom 8:15). All fear is gone. I receive Your joy. I receive Your fresh anointing right now,

In Jesus’ Name.

[1] A stronghold is a belief system that is contrary to what the Bible teaches. For more information see 2 Corinthians 10:3-6


Related posts:

No Longer An Orphan: How I Discovered The Father’s Love

4 Symptoms of the Orphan Spirit in Church Life

How Your Perspective Can Impact Your Destiny

1 Father, 2 Sons, 3 Positions: Which Describes You?


© Helen Calder   2010  Enliven Publishing

13 thoughts on “Breaking Free From An Orphan Mindset”

  1. Thank you Helen. I especially needed to read that now as I’m feeling so alone since my parents died. I realize that they just went home to the Father and He is my Father too. I need to stop feeling sorry for myself and recognize His presence all around. I’m never alone if only I see. I needed that reminder.
    Blessings,
    Ellen

  2. Dear Ellen, I pray that during this next season of your life you will experience the Father’s nearness and love in a greater measure than you ever have before. May you also have such a strong sense of His favour and blessing on your life that joy just bubbles up and overflows from within you to minister to those around you.

    But let all who take refuge in you be glad;
    let them ever sing for joy.
    Spread your protection over them,
    that those who love your name may rejoice in you.
    Surely, LORD, you bless the righteous;
    you surround them with your favor as with a shield.
    (Ps 5:11-12)

  3. Thank you Helen!

    I realized that I did indeed have an orphan mindset even though I’ve been a Christian for 30 years and still growing up in Him. My dad was an alcoholic and was neglectful and emotionally distant from me. I carried this mindset that God was like my earthly father. So I’ve been self sufficient my entire Christian life and even though I am growing closer to my Father, still the old residual thinking of an orphan was presented in how I view God. I prayed the prayer and I do feel a release and tearful. I know that I will need to enew my mind with God’s love to me as my Father.

    Thank you so much for bring this timely word into my life.

  4. Hi Gloria, so awesome to hear of our Father’s work in your life, filling and healing your heart 🙂 He is so good!
    I have been a Christian for over 30 years now too, and the meaning of being a much loved child of God is only now starting to ‘really become real.’
    Many of us can identify with you in that we have perceived God to be to us the way that our natural father has related to us. It’s wonderful that our Heavenly Father is taking us on this journey to seeing and knowing Him as He really is.

    May His rich blessings and love continue to unfold in and through your life.

  5. Hi Helen.
    I’m going through such a horrible period that just seems to be carrying on and on – I feel I’ve done more than my fair share of “40 days” – I don’t even know how to pray any more or what to pray for. Just so very tearful and feel I need some intercession to take place on my behalf. I just keep pleading the Blood and for Him to take away all the hurt and pain and to show me where to next. And I keep asking “how much longer”? I’m so tired! And keep asking myself, am I doing anything wrong??
    Please can you give me advice and pray for me?
    Thank you so much.

  6. Hi Almarie,
    I don’t know how I missed this comment, and I’m so sorry. In case you’re looking back, as I read this now, I am praying that the pain you experienced has lifted and that you have received insight of the Father’s great love for you.

Comments are closed.