“Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life” (Prov 4:23).

When we are discouraged, we lose heart. Our courage fails, our passion is cooled, we lose inner motivation and we feel pain.

Potentially discouraging events, words, trials and disappointments happen regularly in church life.
In times of change and transition the likelihood of these things occurring increases.

The Danger of Discouragement in Church Life

There are two major reasons why the enemy will foster discouragement within churches.

1. Disheartened people do the enemy’s work of criticism and accusation.

If discouragement becomes lodged in our hearts, it will find expression in our mouths. Jesus said, “Out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks” (Matt 12:34).

When discouraged, we are easily tempted to become critical and judgmental, especially if the source of discouragement is another person or church leader.

2. Discouragement robs people of motivation—and unmotivated people will not do God’s work.

A good illustration of this is found in the book of Ezra. When the exiles began to rebuild the temple of God, it says that, “the peoples around them set out to discourage the people of Judah and make them afraid to go on building.” (Ezra 4:4).

Doorways To Discouragement During Change In Church Life

Here are 6 entry points of discouragement in changing church life, along with tips on how to navigate through them:

1. Disappointment

During times of transition, changes are made in the vision, structure or culture of a local church.

When changes do not resemble our preconceived idea of how God is going to accomplish His purposes, we may become disappointed.

Disappointment can relate to unfulfilled vision. “Hope deferred makes the heart sick,” as Proverbs 13:12 says.

Prophetic people can be very vulnerable to this as we carry dreams and visions for our own lives and our church.

Disappointments may also relate to our own desire for ministry in the local church. During restructure we may be set aside from our role, or another person may be promoted in the ministry before us.

SURVIVAL TIP: At times like this, we must never lose sight of the fact that God Himself is watching over our lives and our calling, and that as surely as He has promised, He will bring it to pass as we keep our hearts right—in His time.

2. Hurts

During times of change in church life, relationship hurts can arise very quickly. If we do not fully understand or appreciate changes being made, we may experience pain or offense.

Hurt can also be personal, for example, someone may hurt us through inconsiderate words or actions, even unintentionally.

The closer that person is to us, or the more authority a person carries, or the greater a position of trust, the deeper the wound can be.

Sometimes, the unsaid brings pain. Thankyous that are due but not given, or encouragement that is withheld, can also lead to discouragement.

SURVIVAL TIP: It is important to deal with hurts as they occur, or as soon as possible afterwards. Apply honesty, transparency, forgiveness and grace.

3. Loss

Change brings loss and loss brings grieving. This can be the loss of a ministry, a loss of familiar support structures or even the familiarity of the culture of church life.

Sometimes loss may be related directly to growth. For example, a pastor of over 200 people cannot give each congregational member the same amount of attention as when the congregation consisted of 60 people. A relational loss is felt.

If close friends leave the local church, we naturally go through a time of grieving.

SURVIVAL TIP: It is important to acknowledge grief and to bring it out into the open. Our grief needs be validated and expressed so that we can release it in a healthy manner and move on.

4. Mistakes

Change can be turbulent. Human error or misjudgement is more likely to take place during times of transition in the church.

Imperfect, human leaders cannot be expected to lead perfectly at all times. These are the times when we most need to extend grace to one another and to our leaders.

SURVIVAL TIP: When we have concerns about the way changes have been led in our church, it is a fresh opportunity to place our trust in God. The Bible sets a clear precedent that in spite of real or perceived mismanagement of human leaders, God is sovereign and His purpose for our lives, the community and the church will ultimately be accomplished.

5. Second-Hand Discouragement

Discouragement is catching. Someone else’s discouragement, vocalised, can be easily passed on to us.

The saying, ‘a burden shared is a burden halved’ is a lie when that burden is an offence in the church.

SURVIVAL TIP: Resist taking on another person’s discouragement. Another person’s offence is a burden you were never meant to carry. Once you take it on, it is difficult to remove.

6. Trials

Trials happen; mistakes are made; structures erected to fulfil visions and dreams sometimes fail; dry seasons occur; bad things happen to good people—and the local church is no exception.

During transition, such difficulties are inevitable.

Trials are allowed by God, and come “so that your faith – of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire – may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory and honour when Jesus Christ is revealed” (1 Peter 1:7).

SURVIVAL TIP: Remember that trials not only strengthen our faith, they are also part of God’s learning process for the church and for us as individuals.

Dismiss Discouragement!

There will always be reasons for hurt and discouragement in a growing, dynamic church. But I have learned that discouragement is an enemy to be shunned—with vigilance.

However, discouragement can also be helpful: it can be like an orange flashing light, indicating that there is something in our lives that needs attending to.

Our God is the source of encouragement and hope. The Kingdom of God, the scripture says, consists of “righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit” (Rom 14:17).

The atmosphere of God’s Kingdom and that of discouragement cannot coexist. We have the power to choose which one we embrace.


Have you been discouraged in church life? Or would you like to know more about the antidote to discouragement and division in the church? This article, along with the above cartoon, is an excerpt from my book, ‘Prophetic People In A Changing Church.’

You can find out more about it on the Enliven Blog e-books page.

Related Posts:

Why Is My Spiritual Gift Or Ministry Not Being Released?

Break Free Of Hurts That Are Blocking Your Spiritual Gift

Set Yourself Free From Judging Others

Going Through A Testing Season In Your Spiritual Gifts

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18 thoughts on “6 Doorways To Discouragement In Church Life”

  1. Hi Helen,

    Happy New Year Friend…..I had searched your site looking for this article so glad I did.

    I’ve really needed this and will keep reading over it to allow it to sink further.

    Our church has gone through 3 major blows in the last 18 months and the last one brought alot of hurt, suffering and division.

    Thank you for this word Helen. Have needed it so much.

    Bless you my friend

  2. I was doing so good in God – it was like I never had any hurt or baggage at all – I was strong in him, so we have a new leadership transition, it’s the one couple I didn’t want, but lost in the vote – now my mind is back to 20 years ago – all the stuff that used to attack me – I’m still going with a good attitude, but so resentful deep down inside – any comments to help? Because I’m not finding it within my own flock

  3. Helen, you don’t know how much your blog was needed here. We have been going through a tough time with our church, which is for sale. We are just waiting on the Lord to see what he wants us to do next. A lot of people have left for various other churches. It is a large facility, and with the number of members it is difficult to keep up with the bills. The building is over 30 years old, and maintaining such a large facility is expensive. Please pray for strength, wisdom and encouragement.

    1. Hi Shirley, yes I do pray for you and your church – extra grace needed (and available from God) during times like this.
      May the leadership team have great wisdom in making decisions and continued vision from the Holy Spirit to move forward.
      And for you too…comfort and encouragement of the Holy Spirit, His plans are good.

  4. Beverley williams

    Hi, thankyou for explaining about discouragement, In my life I can identify that this has occurred to me in so many situations over the last 35-40 years – my whole life!!! the holy spirit has continued to bring comfort and reassurance – as I have been diligent to receive by faith and trust the lord wholeheartedly despite the outward circumstances occuring in my family and my life!!! – I am so grateful helen!!! my life will never be the same!!!

  5. Sir, you are truly from heaven and God sent to me. Sir almost everything you said sunk in my spirit and this is one of the signs i get from God when he truly sends some one to me. Sir, my name is Samuel nwokocha from Nigeria and also a nigerian. I was on campus while still a student in one of the universities in Nigeria in 2012 when God told me about his plans for me before he created me. He told me about starting a ministry, but he never gave me the go ahead to start until 2016 may. Lots of prophecies concerning the vision of God came to me as a confirmation to what God had earlier told me. Sir, i faced a lot, not just external, but also internal tests and lots of times i cried so much unto God asking him if i had offended him, he should forgive me and since my heart desire was to make him happy always just like Enoch did, why would all these things happen to me. Sir, i needed someone like a spiritual father who could hold my hand and lead me, but those that i met were not for me as there was still no peace inside me when they spoke, some saw me as a competitor and were just feigning, but sir, as you spoke it sunk in my spirit and joy welled up in me. I started the vision this year Jan 2017 and God has brought 3 persons that he ordained to join me. Sir, i humbly ask that you be My SPIRITUAL FATHER, MENTOR. There was a strong connection when i read your words on this page and i knew that God sent you to me. PLEASE SIR. HUMBLY GRANT MY REQUEST AND ALSO PRAY FOR ME. MY NAME IS SAMUEL MIKE .I. NWOKOCHA, FROM NIGERIA. I WILL BE 32 THIS YEAR JUNE. sir, my email id is [email protected]. I will be truly grateful to hear from you sir especially directly with my email address. Thank u sir. God richly bless you in Jesus name

  6. I have been having an extremely long and very hard struggle for the past 3 or 4 years. The church that I attend collapsed, and the majority of the members left. During the collapse we had meetings about how to deal with it and what to do. The council wanted to and had a motion to close down the church and lock the doors. I thought this was a slap in the face to God and wondered how anyone could even put forth such an option as this without first asking God. I openly said we should stop everything we are doing as a church and come to God as a congregation and ask Him to show us what He wants us to do. I was accused of being the reason for all the problems of the church, such as leaders resigning, no one willing to fill the empty position, committees ceasing to function, ongoing confusion in council, strife and bitterness between church members, and was told that the sooner I left the church the better the church would be. I wanted to leave the church too and so petitioned God about it and He said to stay put. As time went on He told me to “come home and rest” and “those that want to be leaders, let them lead”. Many times I would come into the church and sit in a pew and would be gripped by extreme sadness and so I wept and prayed for the church. I needed to have some kind of anchor in all this so I remembered past instances when God came very close to me. One such time was when I was doing the congregational prayer and I said a sentence, and then I could see an angel of God pumping his arm in exultation and saying “yes we did it, you said what God wanted to hear” and my spirit went and rejoiced with Him. I have read quite a few of your posts today and will read more. I think I will finally be able to understand why I was ripped apart like I was and hopefully be able to get back the happiness that was stolen .

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