Personal (Prophetic) Guidance For The Important Decisions Of Life

Personal guidance—receiving direction from God for our lives—can hold great power when we hear Him clearly and follow Him fully.

However, as with prophecy, there are some pitfalls if we do not exercise wisdom and care in the process of hearing from God for ourselves and others.

What are these dangers, and how can we make the most of personal guidance?

What is Personal Guidance?

As God’s children, we have a personal relationship with Him and can expect to hear His voice. [1] (John 10:2-5) Personal guidance occurs when we receive and follow instruction from God for decisions relating to our own lives.

A great example of someone who received personal guidance from God and acted upon it is Abraham, who is known as our ‘father of faith.’ Abraham set out from his home town and followed the call of God to Canaan. His obedience to personal guidance from God impacted the destiny of generations to come. (Gen 12:1-5).

The Holy Spirit has a significant role in our lives as our teacher and guide. (John 16:12-15)

You can receive personal guidance from God in many ways, including:

  • Circumstances—for example, doors of opportunity opening or closing
  • Scripture—a verse or story speaks to you
  • Through Prayer
  • Internally—an idea, thought or impression you perceive is from God
  • Prophetic Dreams
  • Suggestions from other people around our lives
  • Through leaders
  • An inner sense of peace
  • The desires of your heart (Ps 37:4)
  • Other prophetic means—a vision or word

When it comes to guidance for decision-making, confirmation is important. The strongest guidance occurs when a number of these things line up together, much like signposts pointing in the same direction.

If you are dependent upon receiving personal guidance through another person—for example a leader or a prophet—something is amiss in your relationship with God.

You can have confidence that God desires to speak to you personally and that you do have the right as His child, and the ability, to hear Him.

Weighing up Personal Guidance

It is amazing how people who understand that prophecy needs to be submitted and weighed up, throw all caution out the window when it comes to personal guidance!

The first test of personal guidance concerning big decisions should be the same as that of prophecy:

  • Is it in agreement with the Bible’s instruction?
  • Is it consistent with the nature of God?
  • Is it consistent with the way God has wired and gifted you?
  • What is the fruit—check the projected outcome of your decision?
  • Do wise and mature Christian leaders around your life confirm your guidance?

Avoiding Pitfalls when it comes to Personal Guidance

‘But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.’James 3:17

Faith and Wisdom need to work Together.

God has given us minds to consider and process decisions. We need the wisdom that comes from consideration by ourselves and others. As Prophet David McCracken says, ‘Hear clearly. Plan wisely. Obey boldly.’

Timing

However clearly personal guidance from God comes to you, it is important not to forget that there are always variables. And a big one is timing. Does the direction relate to right now, or to a time in the future? Does it relate to a small window of time, or is it relating to long term?

I made a mistake once when God spoke to me clearly about taking on a certain ministry role. I made the error of assuming that His guidance related to long term, when the role was transitional. This resulted in unnecessary personal pain.

You may hear God speak something to you but the timing is not yet. I recommend recording what He has said, along with your response, in a journal.

Personal Guidance Involving Other People

Something to watch out for is if you believe God has spoken to you about something, but the outcome is dependent upon the decisions and actions of others. Examples of this include promotion, vocationally or in ministry, or direction about a relationship such as marriage.

If your perceived personal guidance relates to a specific person or situation, hold onto it lightly. Consider your guidance unconfirmed until the person responds accordingly.

In the practice of personal prophecy, we have a saying, ‘No dates, no mates!’ In other words, don’t apply specific timelines, or prophesy concerning marriage relationships. I personally believe this guideline should be applied to personal guidance as well. If you sense God is saying something strongly in this area, I recommend that for your own safety and that of others, you take it to a leader or someone who you can be accountable to. [2]

Unity

‘But the wisdom that comes from heaven is… peace-loving, considerate’ (James 3:17)

Following through on your perceived guidance should not result in division—this is especially true of church life [3] or in a marriage relationship.

If your spouse is not in agreement with personal guidance you have received, this should be an orange flashing light warning that something is amiss! It may be a timing issue that will try your faith until it is resolved.

Leadership and Advice

‘For lack of guidance a nation falls, but victory is won through many advisers.’ Prov 11:14

We need to understand that we are not infallible, and we do not stand alone. God has created us to be interdependent upon one another. [4]

Remember that I am talking about big decisions here—not the small daily ones!

The aspect of accountability is so vital that I will spend the next post discussing it.

Don’t Hold on too Tight to Personal Guidance

Don’t hold on to personal guidance too tightly, or be specific or dogmatic about it—be willing to release it or allow it to be clarified as time goes on.

If you believe you have received instruction from God, or a vision from Him for your life, do not view it as though it is a target bulls-eye that you have hit directly centre. That is a sure way to be disappointed! Remember the stories of Joseph, and David?

Most often, the journey of following God is like the flow of a river. People in scripture who followed the call of God experienced opposition and change, but in spite of these things moved towards their destiny as they kept their hearts right. We need to trust in the sovereignty of God.

Desire of our Hearts

‘Take delight in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart.’ (Ps 37:4)

It’s important to distinguish between what our God-given heart desires are, as opposed to desires that are sourced from weakness. Wrong desires can result when we have a deficit in our lives where we are not fully established in God’s love.—this is especially true of desires relating to relationships.

Confusion in Personal Guidance

Watch out for confusion. It can also be a sign that the personal guidance is not clear enough for you to act upon—for example the timing may not be right. However, confusion may also be a sign of spiritual warfare.[5]

God’s Grace for our Mistakes

Many years ago, my husband and I made a business decision based upon what we believed was personal guidance from God. Upon review, we missed some practical steps of wisdom and moved too quickly.

When we do make the wrong decisions based upon our interpretation of what God has communicated to us, all is not lost. His grace and mercy prevails. God uses these times to teach us and grow us.

In our case, although we lost a lot of money and learned some hard lessons, our Father delivered us miraculously when we realised, repented and cried out to Him for help. We also emerged stronger and wiser.

The Power of Obedience

Personal guidance is powerful. Like Abraham’s response to God’s call to go to Canaan, decisions that we make in the will of God have the power to positively impact not only our own lives, but to have a ripple effect that can affect those around us, our families and generations to come.

I recommend that this post should be read in conjunction with next week’s one: Do You Have A Ministry Call?


Notes:

[1] As I have pointed out in the following post, the Holy Spirit has many creative ways of speaking to us:
How to Recover The Wonder Of Hearing God’s Voice

[2] See next week’s post on The Power of Accountability for Personal Guidance

[3] I have personally made mistakes in the area of division in church life. See my book, Prophetic People in a Changing Church

[4] Not Word Perfect: Understanding How Prophecy Works In The Church Today

[5] See the following post: 12 Signs Of Spiritual Warfare


Related Posts:
That Closed Door Could be a Heavenly Redirection


© Helen Calder 2011 Enliven Blog

21 thoughts on “Personal (Prophetic) Guidance For The Important Decisions Of Life

    1. Helen Calder Post author

      Yes, as always much of what I have written is from our trials and errors! 😉

  1. Agnes

    Thank you so much for this timely message. As I was reading this I am confident that the Lord is truly leading me in the right track of my commitment with the research project. I always feel so inadequate.

    I just need to remind myself to take one step at a time and not to move too quickly. What I need to do is to listen closely to the Lord’s guidance.

    Thanks again. I truly enjoyed all your teaching.

    1. Helen Calder Post author

      Hi there, Agnes, thank you for leaving a comment 🙂
      Your research project sounds fascinating and strategic. I will be looking forward to hearing more about it with interest.
      This scripture came to mind for you from 2 Cor 3:4-6
      Such confidence we have through Christ before God. Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God. He has made us competent as ministers of a new covenant—not of the letter but of the Spirit; for the letter kills, but the Spirit gives life.

  2. Wendy

    Thanks Helen. Xo…
    I have FAITH that the right people are being placed around me to guide me in my journey.

  3. Helen Calder Post author

    Hi Wendy, loved receiving a note from you on the blog, thank you 🙂
    And not only are the right people being placed around you, but there is a Father who loves you and who placed them in your life.

    You will become acquainted with the way He talks to you personally more and more as you journey in faith xo

  4. Michael

    Another well written blog with timely and practical advice for all. Good advice where you point out that something is amiss if you are dependent on one person for guidance. We should be dependent on God for guidance who will direct through several means as you have said. I look forward to the next blog.

  5. Jenny Wake

    This is so good Helen – I relate to each of the points you have made, particularly as I have been working through some major life decisions over the past year or so. I knew I was in ‘the right place’ on that journey when I had a real peace about things that had troubled me previously. Thanks for sharing out of your experiences and personal journey with God, which encourages us as ‘fellow travellers’

  6. Helen Calder Post author

    Thanks Michael and Jenny!

    I really appreciate your thought about peace, Jenny. I will go back over the article and make a comment about it somewhere as it is one vital confirmation of personal guidance.

  7. Tim Inglis

    Hi Helen.
    Great post. It seems that I’m doing things pretty right so far in my decision making process. It’s always nice to have things confirmed this way. 🙂
    Two aspects that I really loved were about the ways that you get confirmation and the fact that, even if you get it wrong, God’s grace prevails. I was looking at two degrees and with one I kept getting a nagging doubt, with the other I got total peace. I’ve also seen over the last 10 or so years that God’s grace is sufficient because, although I’ve been off track (not away from God as such, just not quite where he would have me positioned in terms of calling etc), I can still see the hand of God in my situation.
    Like you said though, repentance MUST follow making the wrong decision or rushing into things, and it’s also amazing how good it is to go through that together with your wife/husband.
    Thanks again for such a great post.
    Tim.

    1. Helen Calder Post author

      Thanks Tim,
      Yes I believe God’s grace is totally and fully towards us even when we get it wrong over a period of years He is able to accelerate His work in and through us when we are on track–how wonderful He is! I pray you will continue to move forward with the wisdom and clarity to accompany it. Love what God is doing in your life–blessings to you both.

  8. GABRIEL

    Thank you dear Helen,
    you have no idea how many lives you are affecting worldwide with your teachings.

    I have recieved several instructions, visions, and confirmations from people and God himself, calling me into the prophetic ministry as a missionary to another country. But the problem is, no one has been able to tell me the year am to leave for that country. When I pray about it I kept hearing the Lord saying 2015 and know how risky it is to act without confirmation. I’m planning towards that right now but I just need someone to confirm to me about the year! Thats all, can you help?

    1. Helen Calder Post author

      Hi Gabriel, great question! I am busy with ministry for the next couple of days, keep an eye out here for later in the week and I will respond to your request.

  9. Helen Calder Post author

    Hi Gabriel,
    Thanks for your question. Giving advice about prophetic dates is difficult to make from this distance because I am not familiar with your situation.

    But if it was me, this is what I would do:
    – keep processing the guidance with your oversight (usually church leaders, in the context of being involved with a Christian ministry organisation (like I am) then both)
    – hold onto the date lightly (Biblically, when God gave prophetic time frames they were in ‘God time’ (e.g. ‘a thousand years is as a day’) HOWEVER, if it sits clearly, then
    – subject to above, if oversight is comfortable, make plans towards going on that year, be practical and use wisdom and oversight in the process. Trust in God that if you are heading in the wrong direction He will make it clear (Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way; walk in it.” Isaiah 30:21)

    Hope this helps 🙂

  10. April Harris

    Thanks so much, I was just doing some heavy praying about these very things that you have taugh in this lesson…I even prayed for confirmation, I checked my e-mail thinking of you, and the Wisdom God has given you…but the email was not there..so I continued to pray and seek God…and then heard my e-mail notification buzz…I knew by the Holt Spirit it was you..I continued to pray..when I got through, and checked my E-mail it was from you..and the very Subjects and things that I had been praying about…I am truly blessed..By your lesson God’s timing is everything… May He. Continue to lead and guide you…God bless!:)

  11. Ruthie Gutierrez

    Hi Helen, this is the 2nd time that this scripture hits me hard! It has me in tears Jeremiah 1:5-7.

  12. Helen Calder Post author

    Amen! Such a great call verse. Ruthie, He is so faithful, He will prepare the way! Bless you.

  13. Parvati

    This was very helpful. Lot of time God has spoken to me thru scriptures and sometimes I doubted it. But over the years I learnt to trust when God speaks thru scriptures. your write up is very edifying.
    Parvati

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