How To Overcome Reluctance In Sharing Your Gift

Recently, I had a prophetic vision in which I looked into Jesus’ eyes, and reflected in them was something He wanted to show me.

Jesus seemed to be indicating, ‘See what I am seeing—this is on the Father’s heart right now.’

offer-your-giftsI saw long banqueting tables being prepared for a feast. Some platters were already in place; however, there were still a lot of empty spaces awaiting food.

As I watched this table, I became aware of the sound of a stampede in the distance. The sound was growing louder. It was evident that crowds of hungry people were on their way—but the feast was not ready.

Why, I wondered, were there so many spaces? Time was running out for God’s people to bring their plates of food to the table! Yet they were holding back for various reasons.

No More Excuses

Right now, there is an urgency in the Kingdom because many people need to ‘taste and see that the Lord is good.’ (Ps 34:8) They need the Good News. They need the ministry of the Holy Spirit.

The hungry can only ‘taste and see’ as God’s people bring their gifts to the table—as you and I are willing to share what God has given to us.

Why would people hesitate to bring a platter of food to a public table?

  • Perhaps they feel inadequate—they are measuring themselves against others who have more ‘fancy’ dishes and think that their own offerings are too plain, their recipes too simple
  • Maybe they feel intimidated—and they are afraid of criticism or rejection of their offering
  • Perhaps they are so overwhelmed with meeting their own needs that they do not have time to consider others
  • They could be simply lethargic, or have lost their own appetite, or…

Overcome Reluctance and Bring your Gifts to the Table.

Today, I believe it is on God’s heart to encourage you to share what you have with others.

Bring your spiritual gifts, your talents, your vision, to the table. If you are a leader, encourage others to do the same.

If you can relate to having a reluctance in sharing your spiritual gift, here are some encouraging truths to help you move forward:

Don’t hold back because you feel inadequate. God says you are appointed and anointed. Your adequacy is from Him. (2 Cor 3:4)

Don’t hold back because you feel what you have is too simple. There are people who need the simplicity of the gift and expression you carry, just as there are people who need plain food. There are many different needs and many different appetites.

Don’t hold back because you feel you do not have the time. What you carry in its barest form, released in a moment, may help feed a hungry person.

God can use what you offer to Him, but He cannot use what you withhold.

Don’t hold back because you are intimidated by other people’s gifts, styles or methods. What you carry is unique and highly valued to God.

You are significant and irreplaceable.

Your gifts are needed by Jesus.

And—there are lives at stake.

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41 thoughts on “How To Overcome Reluctance In Sharing Your Gift

  1. samson Idowu

    I am Samson, I’m a worshipper and Publisher.
    This is beyond coincidence, the word of God is true, God’s word is sharper than any two-edged sword, it has the ability to see through the deepest secret, Now I’m going thru dis reluctance, God gave me a vision around April 2016, though I’ve takien two steps of obedience along the way not without his great Grace!!! in August and September, but I just felt I’m incomplete for the assignment God has given me, I feel like how do I present before bible scholars that I respect, how do I communicate, how do I handle the kind of people showing interests. You know established people.
    Sometimes I just tell myself, let me not bother myself but something tells me I would step out of the will of God over my life if I just neglect the call.
    But thanks to “God of” this write-up I know he’s constantly bringing me back on track…glory to him. But I’m trusting. Really trusting.

    1. Helen Calder Post author

      Yes Samson, your words remind me that Jesus keeps calling us out of our comfort zones, just as He called Peter to step out of the boat and walk on water. I pray you are encouraged today to keep pressing in to what God has for you.

    2. Michael Dentai

      Hi Helen , I love talking to you so much my spirit just feels at peace and comfortable, I was born and raised catholic. A lot of what GOD has shared and shown me has to do with our Mother Mary or Saint FAUSTINA through dreams and visions, However I think it’s the hardest to try and talk to people without being questioned or interrogated or even you have to have the approval to share ! Sorry if it sounds tough but I struggle a lot with the church . I so wish I could talk to you I just feel so comfortable writing to you and I read all your stuff it’s so amazing I know you know GOD because I feel it, my Christmas wish would be an opportunity to speak with you , I’ll pray for you to tonight please pray for me ! I can’t wait to hear from you again , I can tell you anything and I know I’m not judged GOD Bless u lots Your dear friend Mike Dentai . Ps I tell everybody that I practice relation not religion ( smile ) I love Joyce Meyers to . Good night

  2. shadrack

    Hello Enliven,I’m a very fun of your blog and Everytime you post a message,it seems You know my situations..I think God is using you to come to myself…My pastor told me God hands is unpon me (Prophet) but I don’t see any sign to feel the activation of my gift..I feel a very big reluctancy in growing my gift as I don’t really know the reason WHY…I have a notion in my mind of not being too complisency in the miday of a congregation.I read it somewhare that developing your gift takes a time…What should I do to break free from reluctancy?….I really need help of this…

  3. Benson Mutuku

    May God bless this ministry.May God enlarge your borderies.The word of God is true and living.Lets press on in this journey of salvation even as we bring more to the kingdom of God through the gifts He has entrusted us

  4. June Lynn

    Hello, this is good but how I have a question how does one share their gifts when they are not sure about their gifts. You see I’m a recent graduate that is still looking for my way in life. I often envy people who know their gifts and can use them for good purposes but as I am unsure I am at a standstill. I have people around me who tell me what my gifts are and yet I still stuck in life and am not sure how to proceed. I know that trusting God is the only way to help overcome my insecurities but still I find it hard. Any advice? Thanks.

    1. Stacie Sutton

      Hello June! I know you asked Helen but as a fledgling in Christ myself might I share with you what I have found? My purpose post accident wasn’t clear until very recently. I am a bona fide mess and prayed to the point of demanding (a progression I assure) direction from God. Once you have built a foundation, put in the prayer time, which is actually putting God first, you go to Him and pray for exactly what you need. I have found that the more specific and the more sincere you are, as long as it follows God’s plans for you, He will give it. We ask for God’s Grace, Discernment and Wisdom first and then we add the mundane. Go to Jesus and put your heart felt needs at His feet, then have faith He will provide! Good Luck sweetheart and May God show you His presence soon. All Love~Stacie

    2. Helen Calder Post author

      Hi June, such a good question!
      It’s ok to not be certain about the gift – remembering that all spiritual gifts are based in an attribute that should be active in every Christian’s life to start with.
      (e.g. some have a gift of prophecy, all believers have an ability to hear from God and share what they hear. Some have spiritual gift of discernment, all Christians should be growing in discernment, some have gift of healing or prayer, every Christian can pray/pray for the sick…and so on).
      So if you are interested in a certain area of gifting, I encourage you to take some small steps forward. If you can give me an idea of which areas you are particularly interested in, I can point you to articles that may help you take action.

      1. June Lynn

        I never thought about it that way but now I see the bigger picture. I’m not exactly sure which area to look into specifically as I’m not sure how to classify the gifts.

        I have had visions but none recently. Another thing I can’t classify is when I was deciding on a church to attend when I was overseas. I was looking through the list of churches but I just kept coming back to one of them, as if telling me that was where I was suppose to go. Sometimes when i feel lonely or just weak I can feel someone hugging me and catching me when I fall. What do all this mean? I’m not very certain.

        1. Helen Calder Post author

          Hi June Lynn, I think that it all comes back to our relationship with God and developing sensitivity to the Holy Spirit. When that’s number one and the main thing, it’s just a joy finding out what is on His heart and responding to it – regardless of whether it fits into a category.
          But you mentioned visions, so here is an article that may help you stir up that ability:

  5. Stacie Sutton

    Hello Helen~I do so love receiving your insights and prophetic wisdom as you have on so many occasions lifted my broken heart up! I am struggling to put the pieces of my life back together after a car accident that left me with brain damage which keeps me from functioning normally. I lost my job, my car and the independence I so relished. However, I gained a loving Christian husband, a family who needed me and have just come to the realization that people with brain injury and PTSD desperately need an advocate. Sports related head injury and veterans who return with awful head trauma and PSTD have no resource network of which I feel drawn to remedy. I have very little money, obviously, but as soon as I am able I absolutely want to boost your endeavors as you have boosted mine! Truly your ministry has kept me going! I am not hesitating so much as I am hobbled with a disability and trying to put my life back together with anew direction and God’s plan for me! God Bless you and yours and please know that I hold you in my heart. A heart that Jesus Himself has mended! Most Sincerely, Stacie Sutton

    1. Helen Calder Post author

      Hi Stacie, what a powerful testimony. You have discovered Jesus’ extraordinary grace and He is lifting you up. God can truly turn our ‘mess’ into a message that changes lives and brings Him glory.
      Thank you so much for sharing and being a part of our community. <3

  6. Sonia

    I have kept gifts God given to me to myself and used it mostly within relationships where I can trust people. Fear of man and fear of failure are the prominent reasons for my hidden state. I also don’t feel equipped or as if I am truly ready to responsibly use these gifts the way God intended. I am,uncertain sometimes about what God shows me and if it’s enemy playing in my,mind. I don’t want comingling to be something that makes others question God and His work He does through me. I hear so many tAlk about false prophecy and I truly don’t want to do,that to,anyone so I always hesitate and ssk,God for confirmation after confirmation before I am,willing to move in obedience.

    1. Helen Calder Post author

      Hi Sonia,
      I’m excited today to be able to encourage you. This article came to mind when I read your comment and I believe you will find some helpful keys here:
      It’s interesting that it’s not the people who are afraid of going wrong who bring the ‘off’ prophecies, it’s usually those who are overconfident and don’t have accountability in place! And that’s not you. Take heart, keep love, wisdom and encouragement as your main context of ministering as you start out, and step forward. You have something special to offer.


    Helen hello sister bless u and the David MC Cracken ministry, great to hear from u as of right i mean the holy spirit is revealing stuff, i wondered about never knew, and life with Jesus is just beautiful, I MEAN THE miracle of God is Jesus, and everything Jesus said us born again christian go through u go through if u are born again and have the holy spirit u go through but that’s the holyness and truth that are father is, he gave Jesus the authority, and Jesus gave us authority, and it’s all from the most high, I mean i became born again, and how the God, the name of Jesus and Jesus himself transformed my entire being environment etc, Helen i know and your ministry, I mean u literally can’t count your blessing because as God said your cup runneth over and that is every aspect of your life, and problems when God has your back u have no problems, I mean when u form a covenant u just understand, u might cry and say i don’t feel like like that, but once u truly have that relationship, no one can take it, and the HOLY SPIRIT IS ALWAYS THERE, AND REGARDLESS THE SITUATION U SMILE, IT’S LIKE WHEN U WRESTLE LIKE JACOB DID U KNOW IT’S FOR THE GLORY OF GOD, AND NOTHING ELSE IN JESUS NAME, with that kind of miracle u have to spread as the holy ghost wont let u be lukewarm your own flesh u will detest, at all costs, so u don’t boast yourself Helen but u do boast your God we spread as much as we can, b less u in Jesus name amen.

    1. Helen Calder Post author

      Hi Shinua, thank you for sharing! It sounds as though God has done a great work in your life – and I appreciate the encouragement too.

  8. Donna

    I really loved this article. I am just starting in my ministry and very excited to be doing God”s will. It’s very joyful!! I do have one question in relation to the gift of discernment. My immediate family know of my gift, but should I tell others in my life as well, such as friends or other family? What about being humble? I don’t want to come across as being or knowing more than them. How do I tell others and remain humble?

    1. Helen Calder Post author

      Hi Donna, that’s such a great question.
      I love the food analogy in relation to that one – don’t tell others you are a great cook – instead, prepare them a delicious dish and bless them with it – then they will discover for themselves that you are a fantastic cook! Same with the gifts – just bless people with the grace of God on your life, and the overflow of your relationship with Him, the results will speak for themselves.
      Of course, there are times when we do acknowledge we have a gift – when we are working in a ministry area or taking specific opportunities to use it, etc…discernment is not always tangible and wisdom is needed in every situation 🙂

  9. Tina Bugan

    Dear Helen.
    Thank you for sharing your prophetic insights. The articles on your blog has really helped me grow. The Lord gave me a prophetic dance gift about three months ago. What is the change of you writing an article about prophetic dancing? It will help me in ministering more effecrively to a group of ten members on our ward. I am a member of a prophetic church and also the leader in our ward. We don’t have a residing pastor, which mean that I have to carry the responsibilities of pastor. I am never reluctant in sharing my gift, but would like to glorify my Father through the gift.
    Thanks in advance.

    1. Helen Calder Post author

      What a special ministry, Tina (prophetic dancing). It has such extraordinary potential for ministry in the Holy Spirit, and as any other gift, the potential to be abused as well. The same principles of honour, guidelines and accountability, wisdom and discernment apply – as in the whole range of prophetic ministries. I haven’t written anything yet except a piece or two in my book ‘Prophetic Worship: Develop Your Ministry of Encounter’…. I will keep it in mind 🙂

  10. Emosi Loanakadavu Nabalarua

    Amen God is good I believe God has been moving in my life and activating my gift I haven’t got vision but at the moment iam operating through worship and faith and many things God has done
    Thank you for the confirmation not to hold back

  11. Sophie

    My name is Sophie from South Africa Pretoria.

    When I start working at church I started by Worshipping then Preaching and praying for people and prophecying. And I was cut off from everything without an reason.
    I kept being strong even though it was hard. After a week a group of women approached me and asked me to teach them the word. I agree and we started. And the leaders they were so agree that they called us a group of women of lies and they warn people to stay away from us. And we had to leave de ministry.
    I experience that in 4 ministries, and now I’m not attend any ministry. I’m just praying with people but is hard when I’m carring a massage because I don’t know where to deliver. Sometimes I feel like I’m not like before I feel like I’m short somewhere like I’m still lacking because I was hurt by the leaders… Even now I’m scared to go to church because I feel like they will distroy me at the end. Because I was getting attacks even spiritually.

    But all is the past now thank you for this article. You have boosted my physical and spiritual life.

    Thank you
    Be blessed always

    1. Helen Calder Post author

      Hello Sophie, I’m sorry to hear of the hard things you have gone through. I pray that you will find a healthy church and ministry to attend. God has designed us to grow and minister in community – the body, as the Apostle Paul puts it.
      I’m glad you’ve been encouraged, thank you for leaving the note.

    2. Stacie Sutton

      Good Morning Sophie! I read about your hardship and your rejection at the hands of those who should be in leadership positions. For whatever reason, your direct experiences of negative human behavior rings as a testament to how real christian’s, the world over, are being received, now that we are in the latter days spoken of in the last chapters of the Bible! The minute we take up our cross for our beloved Christ Jesus, we ourselves become a target! My husband and I created a blog to express and share the supernatural events in our live, and our walk with Jesus. You too can share on-line, the message you carry and the purpose you feel. You can reach thousands of seekers using the internet and worship the Lord in private with your closest friends and family. I just wanted you to know you are not alone, to persevere no matter the blocks and obstacles, and to never ever give up being a shining example of a true warrior for God! Blessing upon you and your desire to spread the Gospel! Stacie

  12. Willie van Nieuwenhuizen

    Good day Helen, thank you for allowing the Lord to use you in such a powerful way and the info you are sharing with us. Helen, I have been on a journey with the Lord in a powerful way and also encountered demonic forces on this journey. I also realised acording to Jeremia 29:11 that the Lord has not only one plan, but several plans for me. I must admit that I have made some mistakes on this very long and frustrating journey and repented before the Lord for these mistakes made out of leaning on my own understanding, disobedience and frustration. The Lord has called me for several missions but found myself to be reluctant as I do not see any fruit on my actions. Also, I need the Lord to open some doors for me to continue with some of His plans. I learned that the Lord is using you to guide me and will appreciate it if I could communicate with you via email as well as on the blog.
    Thank you.

    1. Helen Calder Post author

      Hello Willie,
      God’s grace is abundant and my own experience is that He has taken my mistakes and used the lessons I’ve learned for His glory. He will also make up for lost time! If you haven’t seen my article on Divine Acceleration, take a look here:
      For questions, I’m off email for a few weeks now as I’m on holidays, but will be answering comments on Facebook for the next week here:

  13. R

    What a wonderful & timely word!
    I’ve been having these very interesting occurances where I would wake up with certain names in my spirit. They’d be playing over and over again, kind of loud, in my spirit. Upon waking up, I’d research their meaning as one time I woke up saying “Avi” which I found out was Hebrew for “my Father.” I figured that I must have been engaging in some form of spiritual warfare while sleep. However, I’m still trying to figure out where to put all of this. I always pray over it and for the name I receive–but it’s kind of like a one time thing as I don’t feel compelled to keep it going. I’ve even had the names of certain entertainers ( whom were no where on my radar) in my spirit upon waking–First & last names. Any thoughts? I’m really trying to steward this correctly and help as much as possible.

    1. Helen Calder Post author

      I love the ways of the Holy Spirit – so diverse, and yet the common thread of His grace that runs through them. Yes I believe that responding through light research and prayer, just as you are doing – is exactly how I would be responding myself. Not something to labour over, just enjoy the moments with God.

  14. Elizabeth

    Hi Helen,
    Thank you for writing your blog posts they are so helpful and wise. I really enjoy reading them!

    I have been recently stepping out in faith and delivering to others what I hope and believe are prophetic words. I say stepping out in faith because I often have no idea what the significance is to the receiver of the picture or message I get (they usually mean nothing to me). Happily, I have so far been quite accurate and have been able to fulfil my “reasonable service” Rom 12:1 to God and to the body of Christ using my prophetic gifts.

    However, I have had a hiccup this last year with prophetic words for myself. In 2015, I thought the Lord directly promised me (that is not via another person but in my spirit) the purchase of an apartment in a specific suburb by October. I didn’t get any confirmation from others about this word. I tried to be wise, and didn’t forget this direct word from God, but I didn’t obsess over the word either, just in case this highly specific word was not from God. I let the word guide and direct my steps but chose not to be worried if it didn’t work out. However, glory to God, what I thought He had promised came true to the letter! The apartment was found and purchased in the promised suburb on the promised date and I moved into it in December last year.

    I haven’t heard from God so specifically about my circumstances before so to have that experience was wonderful! Then, at the beginning of this year I felt God was speaking directly to me again. This time I felt He promised me marriage in 2016. I said thank you to Him and continued on with my life. A short while later, He said that I would meet my husband in June/July. I tried to apply the same principles as I had done in 2015 with the apartment and just let it direct my steps. I didn’t tell any of my friends about the specific date that I felt the Lord had given me, because I wanted to keep that information to myself.

    A short time later, a friend of mine was prophesying over me and she prophesied that I would meet my husband in July confirming what I had heard God say!!! I was pretty floored and confident that this indeed was God. It felt spiritually like the same voice I heard in 2015 and I had confidence from the experience with the apartment that I could trust that God could give specific dates and that that level of exactness didn’t necessarily mean or point to the influence of the enemy.

    July came and went. No husband as far as I could tell 🙁

    I was very disappointed but tried to look on the bright side. I asked God what was happening and felt He said that I’d “passed the test”. When I prayed about it I felt He meant that I hadn’t gotten obsessive over men I’d met, and I had also tried to expand my social circle. Then I felt like He said that there would be some kind of conclusion to this word in December, that I’d know or meet my husband then. And THEN after telling no-one again about December, a friend prayed over me and prophesied over me that my husband would come into my life in December. PHEW.

    Ok so that was a long post, but basically I want to ask your opinion on how specific dates for prophecies works? Is there any wisdom you can offer in this area? I want to trust God based on my amazing experience last year, but this year has been very difficult!!! I wonder if I should just give up waiting for a specific date connected with a prophecy to come to pass or if I should be praying and expecting a certain timing from Him. I’d love to know what you think about this.

    Thanks 🙂

    1. Helen Calder Post author

      Hi Elizabeth, yes specific dates is something we do have to be very careful about – the ultimate test of a prophetic insight that is dated is…does it come to pass? Hold the expectation lightly and release it if it doesn’t come about.
      We do advise those who are growing in prophecy to avoid prophesying concerning relationships and babies – (in fact, we make it a prophetic guideline) simply, these areas touch on strong emotions and a word that is not purely from God can bring great disappointment.
      Praying you have a wonderful peace from God this Christmas, Elizabeth!

  15. Anna Burston

    Hi Helen ( amazing Prophet)
    thank you for all your Enliven Blogs you send .You have made such a difference in my life every time i receive your Blog I Hear from God and it speaks strait to my spirit and is always current in my life.
    I’am a worship leader and i struggle with a lot of Spiritual attacks leading up to Sundays reading your Blogs all ways encourage me. I have never known a person who is so gifted in what they do like you I pray God will continue to Bless you and Your Husband’s Ministry so you can continue to hear Gods Heart for his people , Thank you again from the bottom of my Heart xxxx Anna

  16. praise akpeme

    hello my name is praise akpeme from nigeria. please I need serious prayers, since I married I been believing God for the fruit of the womb and been having miscarriages. I need God v
    isit this January 2017 for the fruit of the womb.thank you and God bless you.

    1. Messenger

      I will pray for you to receive the Grace of GOD! Just believe in JESUS CHRIST ! And To GOD be the GLORY!!!

  17. SAM mattocks

    THANKS for that right now WORD about the table. God has given me a passion for the message of PURPOSE and DESTINY. I HAVE been APART OF churches but didn’t seem to fit. I HAVE A hunger for prophetic ministries like your. I go to prophetic links like yours and I read A LOT OF articles that really help me. There’s no ministries like yours HEAR IN THIS small town. I’m hungry for prophetic ministries. Again the article help me really SPOKE to me. I believe I am one of those who are to share DESTINY FOOD with those who who are going. Please keep me in PRAYER. Am not sure if FATHER GOD WANTS ME TO START MY ON OR I DO AND JUST AFRAID TO STEP OUT IN FAITH. PRAY THAT I GET CLARITY. THANKS

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