3 Ways You Can Be A Friend Of God

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When you consider the question, ‘Do you want to be a friend of God?’ does something stir in your heart?

Being a friend of God, as well as His son or daughter, resonates strongly with those of us who are called to prophetic ministry and prayer.

Friend of GodThis is because friendship speaks of intimacy, mutual exchange and trust.

In the Bible, there are two people whose friendship with God stands out. These are Abraham and Moses:

  • ‘And the scripture was fulfilled that says, “Abraham believed God, and it was credited to him as righteousness,” and he was called God’s friend.’ (James 2:23)
  • ‘The Lord would speak to Moses face to face, as one speaks to a friend.’ (Exodus 33:11a)

How to be a Friend of God

1. Be a Friend of God by Taking Time to Listen to Him

Jesus said, ‘I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.’ (John 15:15)

Amazing—Jesus wants to let you know what He is up to, and what His Father’s plans are!

When you value God as a friend, you place worth on His thoughts, and what is on His heart. When He wants to talk, you are ready and listening.

Abraham took time to listen to God’s intentions—including things that were uncomfortable to talk about. In Genesis 18, God says “Shall I hide from Abraham what I am about to do?” (Gen 18:17) He is about to pass judgment on two cities, but He gives Abraham the opportunity to discuss it with Him first.

Moses also listened as God shared His thoughts and plans, along with His frustrations. In Exodus 33, God shares with Moses His grievances concerning Israel.

These encounters were valuable to God and He has recorded them in Scripture because He wants you to know about them. Friends spend time together.

As a friend of God, you care for God and love Him as a Person, not just for what He can do for you.

  • You can be someone with whom God can entrust His desires, His grievances and His intentions.
  • You can listen as He shares what causes Him pain and what brings Him joy.

2. Be a Friend of God by Having Courageous Conversations

Friends are open and honest with each other. There is freedom in their relationship; they have open and courageous conversations that strengthen their friendship.

Friends go beneath the surface, beyond exchanging pleasantries, to ‘deep and meaningful’ conversations.

A remarkable thing about Abraham and Moses is that the Bible records lengthy conversations between them and God. Conversations where critical issues are at stake.

When God announces His plans for Abraham’s destiny, Abraham believes, but he also asks God questions. In Genesis 15, we can read this frank and open conversation.

As a friend of God, you esteem Him with your honesty. When He says ‘This is what I want to do with and through you’, take the conversation deeper. Ask questions.

It’s not a sign of unbelief, it’s a part of your friendship with God. You are giving Him an opportunity to disclose more to you.

When God planned to destroy Sodom and Gomorrah, the Angel of the Lord paused to explain to Abraham what was going on, and why. (Gen 18) Abraham had the boldness to question God, to challenge His intentions, and to ask for mercy on behalf of the righteous.

Moses also had a courageous conversation, in Exodus 33. God was threatening to withdraw His Presence from Israel. Did Moses change God’s mind? Or—did God need an intercessor right at that time, so that the outcome He intended all along could be fully brought about?

“I looked for someone among them who would build up the wall and stand before me in the gap on behalf of the land so I would not have to destroy it, but I found no one.” (Ezekiel 22:30)

God is seeking friends who are willing to have honest conversations with Him and who will be champions for the people and issues that are on His heart.


3. Be a Friend of God Through your Obedience

‘By faith Abraham, when called to go to a place he would later receive as his inheritance, obeyed and went, even though he did not know where he was going.’ (Heb 11:8)

Friendship is costly. Friends make sacrifices for one another.

Jesus said, ‘Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command.’ (John 15: 13-14)

What was the context of James’ reference to Abraham’s friendship with God? It was his obedience to God in the matter of sacrificing Isaac. (James 2:21-24) Abraham not only listened to God’s intentions, he demonstrated faith and followed through in obedience.

Listen to God, but don’t stop there. The true test of your friendship with God is what you do when you walk away from that conversation.


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8 thoughts on “3 Ways You Can Be A Friend Of God

  1. jose ramos

    Dios me ayude en ser su amigo.Oro y trato de obedecerlo.Aunque en ocasiones no lo logre…!saludos!

  2. Trudi Singh

    Thank you again Helen!
    I love that encouragement to “take the conversation deeper and ask questions.”
    Something I have learnt to do when I see prophetic pictures over people. “What else are you wanting to say to this person?” Asking questions is so exciting and the responses are so interesting and often unexpected.

    Also love your encouragement from last month about shifting atmospheres. I have been saying that phrase “The atmosphere over my life is righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit.” Such a powerful declaration to overcome worry, or whatever is being thrown at you in that moment. Something that is also very powerful when tempted to be nervous before speaking to crowds.

    Bless you ! Trudi

    1. Helen Calder Post author

      Hi Trudi,
      Thank you for being a blessing to me too. I will definitely use that confession too – very timely in fact!
      I’ve been excited lately catching up on a book that’s been around for a while, it’s James Goll’s ‘The Seer’ – if you are visionary I’m sure it will be a great resource to you. I downloaded it onto my iPad. 🙂

  3. Russ Couch

    Another timely and excellent article.

    Be confident in your ministry for it is much needed. Your blog stimulates spiritual growth and learning while accelerating that unquenchable desire to soak up more of our Father, who is in heaven but active amongst us everyday.

    Seeing an active move of the Holy Spirit in our daily walk marvels my heart. We are so blessed to be loved by God.

    Thank you for the consistent effort you put into your ministry.

    1. Helen Calder Post author

      Hi there Russ!
      Thank you for the encouragement, yes it is a big commitment to keep up the blog and the feedback is one of the things that helps keep me going. 🙂
      What a privilege and honour we have to serve Jesus in our day. I love the move of the Holy Spirit and what God is up to…anticipating revival on a large scale, this generation needs Jesus. May His grace continue to overflow through you to others.

  4. Conny

    Dear Helen,
    as always this article has come in the right moment. Thank you so much!
    It is always good to remember how God really is and how much he loves us.
    This morning I got Isaia 41:10 ff

    There is something I must share here too, even if it is a bit off topic.
    A friend very far away has received a prayer request from someone active in the mission ministries and mailed this to me to pass it on to everyone.
    20 Christian churches were burnt down in the Indian Province Olisabang by Islamists two nights ago. The Christians are hiding in villages and are under death threat. Please everyone pray for them and for the 22 Christian missionary families who were sentenced to death by islamists in Afghanistan.

    Please pray and pass this on
    Thank you
    Yours Conny

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