When Painful Memories Resurface – Receive God’s Healing

Recently I had a memory flashback of a painful event in my life. For several long minutes, it was as though I was actually present in the time and place of the trauma—reliving every emotion in vivid technicolour.

Later, over a cup of coffee, I mused over this occurrence with a dear friend who is a Christian counsellor.

“Why,” I wanted to know, “would I have a flashback of an event that has been fully dealt with—one in which there has been complete forgiveness and restoration, and that has been used by God to bring such good in my life?”

I went on to share my response to the flashback, how I had prayed about the incident, re-affirming forgiveness and searched my heart for unfinished business. I could find none.

“Sometimes,” my friend said, “a traumatic event can cause soul damage. When a painful memory resurfaces, we need to take time with God—in the moment or aside later—to receive His healing into our hearts.”

As I pondered her words, I realised that my response to the flashback had been (typically) to take action. Working out what I could do to fix it, it had not occurred to me to simply receive what Jesus had already accomplished for me.

Receiving God’s Healing when Painful Memories Resurface

‘He restores my soul…’ (Ps 23:3)

If something has triggered the flashback of a traumatic memory, here are some thoughts to help you process it:

1. Take the Position of Trust

‘He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners.’ (Is 61:1)

You can be assured that if God has allowed pain from the past to resurface in your life, it is because He desires to bring a deeper level of healing to you.

A flashback can also be our inner self’s means of letting us know that it is ready to face and deal with any buried pain.

2. Re-Establish Forgiveness

‘Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.’ (Matt 18:21-22)

A good analogy is that forgiving again whenever you recall a painful event is like keeping a wound clean so that it can heal. This may mean simply re-affirming the forgiveness you have already given.

3. You Don’t Need to Handle it Alone

 ‘Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.’ (Gal 6:2)

Sometimes we can work through hurts privately in our personal relationship with God.

However there are times, especially relating to situations of trauma, when we can benefit from others’ help. This could be through a simple discussion, someone to pray with, or Christian counselling.

4. Receive God’s Healing

‘He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.’ (Ps 147:3)

There is something significant that can take place when we allow God to minister to us in moments of reliving the pain. We can receive God’s comfort right there in the very place of the trauma. We can experience His redeeming power. [1]

Take time with God to receive His healing. This may be either in the moment that you recall the pain, or in time aside later.

You may want to:

  • Acknowledge and release the hurt to Him
  • Consider the heart of the Father to you in the situation—His compassion, comfort, and unconditional love; His complete acceptance, along with His desire to heal you and bring good to your life
  • Listen to anything He may want to tell you about the event. The Holy Spirit may lead you to further forgiveness, or repentance, or He may simply want to show you something about the situation from God’s perspective
  • Thank God for His healing and receive it by faith
  • Be still in His Presence.

You may not feel that anything significant has taken place, but you can be assured that God has brought healing to you.

5. Affirm God’s Word

‘Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.’ (Ps 119:105)

Once you have done the above, even if it is an issue that requires a long-term journey such as counselling, you do not need to dwell on negative emotions or thoughts.

Instead, allow God’s Word to feed your perspective. I find the Psalms a helpful starting place—the Psalmists acknowledge pain in its reality, but always lead you back to a position of faith in God.

The One Who Sees Me

Hagar was a slave who was abused and mistreated. Pregnant and alone, she fled into the wilderness. There, the angel of the Lord appeared to her, bringing comfort, instruction and prophecy.

Genesis 16:13 tells us,

‘She gave this name to the Lord who spoke to her: “You are the God who sees me,” for she said, “I have now seen the One who sees me.”

Life’s experiences had sought to rob Hagar of her God-given identity. Abuse had sent her the message, ‘You are a chattel, a despised slave, a usurper.’ Now God spoke into her very identity and destiny: ‘I know you, I love you – and I have ordained you to be the mother of a nation.’

In the darkest place, Hagar received a revelation of God as One who saw her pain, and Who had a purpose for her life which would not be thwarted by the pain.

This experience with God gave Hagar the courage to face her fears and fulfil the future God had planned for her.

Like Hagar, we too can know God’s healing and redeeming power. We can know His presence, comfort and love for us in the midst of our pain. We can receive our identity from Him. And we can be assured of the Father’s intent to overturn what was meant for harm and bring us into His purpose for our lives.

Remember, you are God’s beloved son or daughter. He loves you unconditionally and beyond measure. He is sovereign, He is faithful, and He is Your Redeemer.


Notes:

[1] From the counselling perspective, Jean Battersby says,

‘God invites us to allow His comfort and validation to be experienced and sensed IN the relived traumatic incident. Psychologically this allows us the experience of comfort and safety, in a moment that originally was overtaken by fear and disempowerment. Recent neurological understandings explain the way the anxious or traumatised brain can change (neuroplasticity of the brain) when the mind, body and emotions consistently absorb and experience comfort and safety over-ruling the traumatic memory. For people who have experienced trauma, it seems to be healing in itself for the person to realise that God sees and knows the meaning and extent of the pain and that He offers deep compassion, empathy and healing.’ Jean Battersby, Relationship and Trauma Counsellor


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13 thoughts on “When Painful Memories Resurface – Receive God’s Healing

  1. Simon Argue

    Where do you go when you’re in such a dark place, you can’t even feel God’s forgiveness. After 23 years in an abusive and violent marriage – up to 27 days of silence treatment, being hit, her stealing pethedine from her work and then saying it was my fault for making her do it – I then broke away and moved into another relationship, divorced, remarried, and now have a 31/2 month daughter (when I couldn’t have children before).
    I recognise that I am blessed with both a new wife and our daughter, and I am taking on faith that God is with me, or we wouldn’t be where we are, but how do I start when almost every day something comes up, even after 6 years of counselling?

    1. Helen Calder Post author

      Hi Simon, I hear you. Abuse can leave a very deep scarring, but no wound is so deep that it is beyond God’s ability to heal. Sounds as though you have come a very long way and there is much to be thankful for. I pray that you will have a fresh encounter this week with Father God, and with it a new revelation of His powerful love and forgiveness towards you and through you.

  2. Rolonda H

    This is SUCH a Word from God. I woke up this morning with a painful memory that I could not shake and I asked the Lord for guidance. I was confused because I thought I had moved on from the situation. I was praying all this morning, if it was an unclean spirit to be bound up in the name of Jesus and be cast to where He would want it to go. However, the vision was still there. I had a praise in my spirit for something that was coming- so I am him a praise in advance; however, I was still confused as to the purpose of the resurfacing…..this article was there when I opened up my email this morning. For your obedience to post this article I thank you soooo much!

  3. wildlittlefan

    Helen,
    I think we can’t avoid memory comes back to our mind but we don’t need to avoid the pain. I understand that if we are truly healed from a certain experience in the past, we won’t feel pain even when we will still have that experience in our memory. I hope we all can like Joan Hunter (the daughter of Charles and Frances Hunter) who could experienced God’s healing for her hurtful experience in a supernatural way, but sometimes it really takes time for lots of us to get heal in our hurtful memory. Thank you fro your helpful article and God bless you.

  4. arend

    Thanks Helen. Amazing.

    I recently struggled with a nasty painful flashback……cried out to God that i couldn’t cope with it, and I believe God showed me how to think about it and look at it. This your post is amazing as (now you mention it) God was bringing healing from something that held me captive for a long time.

  5. Helen Calder Post author

    Hi everybody, so glad to hear this post has been relevant and timely for you. It’s a bit different from my usual topics but I felt led to share on it. 🙂

  6. Sandi Bonavita

    Very interesting Helen. I myself found I was having a flashback to a very humiliating memory, checking my heart for unforgiveness towards this person and the Holy Spirit actually showed me the trigger to the feelings that went back to childhood. I was able to release this person and in so doing myself from unresolved anger I wasn’t even aware I was carrying. Sometimes it’s very good to allow the Lord to take you through a heart check!!! Blessing to you.

  7. Julie Egan

    Thank you so much, I find your blogs something whether I like it or not, I need so desperately to hear. Recently I had some very harsh words spoken to me and I recalled some wise words said. “When we pressed down does what come out be sweetness?”. That does not always happen, nor do I feel like jumping for joy, but slowly and surely, by God’s grace, He has allowed me to heal. Your blog was icing on the cake and a confirming word. May God bless each and every day Helen!

  8. Amy

    Great teaching “We can’t avoid the memory, but we can avoid the pain” This is so true. It can be so hard to deal with painful issues from the past, but God gives you the peace to deal with the situation rightfully.
    For years memories haunted me, and made my heart ache, God took away the pain. I still remember, just as I remember my wardrobe yesterday, but it doesn’t hurt. My memory pushes me to help others…..
    love the teaching:)

  9. Maria

    I was sexually abused, raped four times. I was a child of the foster care system. My son was murdered at 17 and my heart is broken. I’ve wrote you before.

  10. Alex

    I’ve been struggeling for more than 3 years with painful memories of my former girlfriend. I am married for 2 years to another woman. Still, she is daily in my mind. I see her smiling, talking, walking, etc. This is horrible. Sometimes it accumulates and turns into pain.

    I cried to GOD that I can’t carry the memories any longer. They damage my marriage and cause pain. Sometimes the longing for her is so hard, that I wish would rather die than going on like this. I can’t go back. I can’t leave my wife. Neither I can carry that burden. So I have to receive healing, which I thought I have received already. But that’s not true, memories resurface.

    Now, at least I know, this is a good time to fall into God’s hands and receive further healing.

    1. Helen Calder Post author

      Hi Alex, yes I pray that you have been able to receive God’s comfort and strength and that the article has helped.
      Having someone to pray with you (prayer ministry) in the area of ‘breaking the power of soul ties’ could be helpful for you. The bonds we form in relationships can be very close and need to be prayed through to bring closure.

  11. Tina Louise Runge

    Thank you for the article. I am praying God will help me to put it into practice. God bless you and those who are ministered to by you and your staff!

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