Our Top 5 ‘Secrets’ For A Lasting Marriage Relationship

The Hunk and I celebrate 30 years of marriage today—since 5th February 1983. We have had our share of trials and yet we both agree that our love and appreciation for each other has grown throughout the years.

Longevity in any relationship is difficult to find these days, let alone maintaining closeness in marriage.

Today I would like to share some of the things that have contributed to our ability to, not only stay together (by God’s grace), but also to have fun throughout the journey.

Our ‘Secrets’ for a Lasting Relationship

1. Celebrate the Differences

It has been said that opposites attract. That may be true to begin with, but over the long haul, differences can cause frustration.

  • My husband is an extrovert, I am an introvert
  • He is unstructured and spontaneous, I thrive on being organised
  • He is relational, I am task-oriented

You get the picture.

One day, 10 years into our marriage, some mentors whose family life we respected lent us a book on personality types. [1]

Finally, we each learned that the other was not wrong, just created differently. Over the years, we have discovered that our differences are complementary and add strength to our relationship. And most importantly, we have learned to accommodate each other’s unique needs.

2. Prioritise Marriage and Family

In our fast-paced culture it can be difficult to find the time needed to keep relationships strong. Work, financials needs, extra activities such as church meetings or sport, and ministry can make excessive demands on our time.

For many years, whilst our children were young, my husband was National Director for a mission agency in New Zealand. His role required a lot of travel throughout New Zealand as well as to many countries in Asia.

It was during this busy time that we instituted what we called the ‘family bank account.’ Times my husband was away or busy in ministry were withdrawals, whereas quality times together as a family (and as husband and wife) were deposits. We just needed to ensure that the deposits exceeded the withdrawals!

This family ‘bank account’ was an intuitive thing, not a counting of times or days.

As a result, some of our fondest memories as a family are of the times we spent together during those years, especially our annual family ministry trip, visiting churches in New Zealand’s South Island.

3. Put Choices above Feelings

Someone once said, ‘happiness is having what you want, whereas contentment is wanting what you have.’

Our relationship has not all been sunshine and roses. It may look that way to outsiders, but we are certainly normal and have had our share of difficulties! All glory to God for the many expressions of His grace to us over the years.

There have been some dark times in our relationship when we have made the decision, ‘If this is as good as it gets, I still choose this.’

Choices are powerful. Choosing to forgive when you feel hurt, choosing respect when your partner doesn’t seem worthy of it. Choosing to move forward in your relationship with God when the other partner has stalled.

We have discovered that our marriage is only as strong as the choices each of us makes.

4. Discover Each Other’s Love Language

We had been married 15 years when my Mum sent us a copy of Gary Chapman’s book, ‘The Five Love Languages.’ [2]

We each have our own way of expressing and receiving love. According to Chapman, the 5 main love languages are: quality time, words of affirmation, gift-giving, touch, and acts of service.

We were immediately able to look back over the first 15 years of our marriage and see that differences in the way we expressed our love for each other accounted for our chief frustrations.

  • My love language is ‘acts of service’
  • My husband’s is ‘words of affirmation’

I would get irritated when he expressed his love with romantic words, but would not fix something in the house that needed repair. And he was unhappy when I would speak negatively or criticise him.

The second 15 years have been amazing. I feel loved because my ‘Hunk’ does many things to help and bless me. And he feels loved because I have learned to frequently express appreciation and encouragement. That’s what you would call a win-win!

5. Have a ‘Together Relationship’ with God.

In a Christian marriage, it is easy to be isolated in our individual relationships with God. This can be due differences in the way we relate to God, or different gifts, or even through hurt or misunderstanding.

We have been blessed during our relationship to have friends and mentors who have modelled a great Christian marriage. What we have seen in them has caused us to desire more from our relationship with God together.

Finding the time or motivation to pray together, or to share about what God is speaking to us personally can be a challenge.

How does this work for us?

  • If a need or problem crops up in conversation, we move spontaneously into prayer (God is the third, ever present person in our relationship)
  • We have a common desire to see our family and friends move closer to Jesus
  • We reminisce over things God has done for us in the past and anticipate what He will do in our present circumstances or in the future
  • We regularly share what God is speaking to us individually and how we are being challenged to grow.

6. More Keys that have Strengthened our Marriage

  • Encourage and release the other partner to his/her dreams and call of God (sometimes this costs you personally)[3]
  • Through small actions and big plans, keep the fun, passion and romance alive
  • Take care of your appearance in a way that is meaningful to your partner
  • Break out of the box, move out of comfort zones and have adventures together
  • Attend and have meaningful involvement in a local church together
  • Quality time (no matter what your love language is, there is no replacement for quality time together)
  • Look for friends and mentors with healthy marriages and learn from them [4]


[1] This was one of Tim La Haye’s books. For example, see ‘Why You Act The Way You Do’ and ‘The Spirit Controlled Temperament.’

[2] ‘The Five Love Languages’ by Gary Chapman. We have found this also applies to our other family relationships (including children) and friendships. http://www.5lovelanguages.com/

[3] Decisions about guidance and the call of God should be made together, in unity. See my post, ‘Personal Guidance for the Important Decisions of Life’

[4] David and Margaret McCracken are one couple that inspire us greatly. I highly recommend their DVD ‘The Marriage Journey’ available at our DMM e-Store.

More articles that tell our story:

Worship: So Much More Than Music (in which I share how The Hunk and I first met and became involved with missions)

How To Leave a Spiritual Legacy (in which I share the significant role my Mum-in-Law played in our marriage)

Do you have any marriage tips or suggestions you would like to share? Leave a comment in the comments box. If the comments section is not visible, click on this link and scroll down.

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Kingdom Culture: How Nathanael’s Perspective Changed

Two years ago, The Hunk and I began praying a prayer that has become a defining prayer for this season in our lives:

‘Father, teach us about Kingdom culture.’

Although we have been Christians for over 35 years, we are still coming to terms with what it means to have a Kingdom perspective.

It is not a religious worldview. It is the worldview of being a royal son or daughter of God.

A Disciple Called Nathanael

I love the story of Nathanael, found in John’s Gospel. (see John 1:43-50)

In order for Nathanael to follow Jesus, he has to undergo a change of perspective—from that of a traditional Jewish worldview, to the Kingdom perspective that Jesus demonstrates and teaches.

Nathanael will go on to experience the greatest move of God of all time—Jesus present ministering on earth, His death and resurrection, followed by Pentecost and the move of the Holy Spirit described in Acts. [1]

I believe that Nathanael’s story is a prophetic picture of where the church is today.

Nathanael’s 4 Shifts of Perspective

1. From Being a Servant of God to being a Son of God

In the opening chapter of John, we read,

‘Yet to all who did receive [Jesus], to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God.’ (John 1:12)

Soon afterwards, John introduces us to Philip and Nathanael, among the first who receive Jesus.

Nathanael’s whole life and perspective are about to be challenged and changed. Up until this time he has seen himself as a follower of God, and a servant of God—but he is about to meet Jesus, who will introduce God as Father to him.

There are times when we need to ask the question, ‘Am I seeing myself for who I am—a royal son or daughter of God? Or am I seeing myself as a servant who labours for God?’

2. From a Future King and Kingdom to a Present King and Kingdom

Philip seeks out Nathanael and says, “We have found the one Moses wrote about in the Law, and about whom the prophets also wrote—Jesus of Nazareth, the son of Joseph.” (John 1:45)

Judea is under Roman rule and occupation at this time. Nathanael, along with other devout Jews, has been waiting for the promised Messiah, and for the future establishment Of God’s Kingdom. [2]

And now Philip is announcing to Nathanael:

‘We do not have to wait for the Messiah any more. The King is here.’

Throughout Jesus’ ministry, He demonstrates that the Kingdom is not only the future rule of God, but the current exercise of His rule in the here and now. [3]

Nathanael has to make the paradigm shift from a coming Messiah and a future Kingdom, to a present Messiah and God’s present Kingdom.

Questions we can ask are, ‘Am I waiting for God’s Kingdom, or am I living in His Kingdom? Do I recognize that the King is present and living in me?’

A sign that we are living in the Kingdom is that, like Jesus, we are disturbing the status quo.

3. From Human Reasoning to Divine Reality

As Philip says, ‘Jesus of Nazareth, son of Joseph’ Nathanael’s response is:

“Nazareth? Can anything good come from there?” (John 1:46)

Nathanael has a good line of reasoning. Scripture does not indicate that the Messiah will come out of Nazareth. He does not yet know that Jesus was born in Bethlehem.

Sometimes, like Nathanael, we can be offended with the ‘package’ that a move of God comes in and be in danger of missing a gift from God.

  • Can anything good come out of my church, my town, city or nation? Yes!
  • Can anything good come from my life—or the life of others around me, with our known weaknesses and flaws? Yes!

Instead of seeing others and ourselves according to their history, we need to see as God sees—according to our destiny.

4. From a Future Move of God to a Present Move of God

Up until now, Nathanael has studied past revivals and moves of God in the scriptures. He has lived in expectation of a future move of God that would establish God’s Kingdom.

Now Jesus promises Nathanael is that he will see an open heaven.’ (John 1:49-51) This will take place as Nathanael spends the next three years walking with Jesus, the One Who is the fulfilment of Bethel.

On the day of Pentecost the heavens will open over the waiting church and the Holy Spirit will be poured out.

Today we can ask, ‘What is my perspective concerning revival?’

We do not need to live with only the dreams of the past, or hopes of a future move of God.

We do not need to wait for revival, or yearn for an open heaven. These things are already available and are our inheritance through Christ. [4]


[1] Nathanael continued as a disciple throughout the time of Jesus ministry as he shows up again in John chapter 21—after the resurrection of Jesus.

Many scholars believe that Nathanael and Bartholomew (who is listed as one of the twelve in the 3 other Gospels) are one and the same person.

[2] See also Mark 15:43

[3] Jesus exercised the rule of the Kingdom, but He also looked forward to the Kingdom to come in fulness in the future. (Matt 26:29)

The future establishment of God’s Kingdom gives us hope and anticipation in the face of sickness and death.

We live in the tension of the Kingdom that is present, but also yet to come in its fullness—what is spoken of as the ‘now and not yet.’

For more on this topic, see ‘ABC’s Of The Kingdom Of God.’

[4] For more on this topic, see the articles, ‘No Longer Waiting For Revival’ and ‘An Open Heaven Is Your Inheritance.’

See also the related post, ‘How Your Perspective Can Impact Your Destiny.’

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ABC’s of the Kingdom of God

Children worshippingThe Kingdom of God is powerful and eternal. Here are some foundational truths about the Kingdom, King Jesus, and how we can live in God’s Kingdom today.

ABC’s of God’s Kingdom

In Mark 10:15, Jesus said, “Truly I tell you, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.”

We know that Bible scholars have yet to fully explore the extent of the riches of God’s Kingdom as revealed in His Word.

And yet, according to Jesus, a child can grasp its truth and reality. Here are some simple, foundational Kingdom truths we can meditate on:

A. The Kingdom Exists Because there is a King

‘O Lord Almighty, God of Israel, enthroned between the cherubim, you alone are God over all the kingdoms of the earth. You have made heaven and earth.’ (Isaiah 37:16)

In the beginning…there is a King.

God created everything that exists, and He rules as King over everything that He created.

The Bible has a great deal to say about the throne and sovereignty of God. We are exhorted to keep our focus on Jesus, seated at the right hand of God on the throne. (Col 3:1-2)

The throne of God is the source and focus of events in the book of Revelation.

B. God Assigned Rulership of the Earth to Humanity

‘The highest heavens belong to the LORD, but the earth he has given to mankind.’ (Ps 115:16)

In Genesis, we read that God gave Adam and Eve dominion over the earth. (Gen 1:28)

Effectively, He said, “You are King and Queen of this planet. I fully assign it to you”

C. Satan used Deception to Acquire Dominion over the Earth.

Adam and Eve gave leadership of the earth away when they disobeyed God. Instead, they submitted to the wiles of the serpent. (Gen 3)

Paul describes a hierarchy of demonic rulership in Ephesians: the rulers… authorities… powers of this dark world and… the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms’ (Eph 6:12)

In the temptation of Christ, the devil offered the kingdoms of the earth back to Jesus in exchange for worship. (Luke 4:5-6)

D. Jesus paid the Price to Restore our Relationship with God, and to Regain Authority over the Earth

God had a plan to restore the earth’s dominion to its rightful order—and He executed that plan in sending His Son Jesus Christ to take the penalty for the sin of humanity.

After He rose from the dead, Jesus said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me.” (Matt 28:18) [1]

Jesus is now described as ‘King of Kings and Lord of Lords.’ (Rev 19:6)

E. Jesus Shares His Kingdom Authority with us

In the Gospels, Jesus assigned authority to His disciples to do His work of ministry. (Luke 9:1)

But God had a master plan, made possible through Jesus’ crucifixion and resurrection.

We can become part of God’s Kingdom by simply believing in and receiving Jesus.

Now, we are not merely assigned authority as agents or representatives. We are members of God’s royal family. [2]

John 1:12-13 says,

Yet to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God— children born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husband’s will, but born of God.’

Our authority is not an independent authority—we do not ‘rule,’ or exercise authority, in our own name, but in Jesus’ Name. We are co-heirs with Him. (Rom 8:17, John 14:13)

F. Complete Restoration of God’s Kingdom is in the future.

God has appointed a future time when all of heaven and earth will again be completely subject to Him.

We look forward to this future age when evil, sickness and suffering no longer exist and to the ultimate Kingdom established on earth at His return. (Rev 21:1-5)

We know that Jesus has paid the price in full for this—so why the wait?

2 Peter 3:9 tells us, ‘The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.’

G. The Kingdom is a Present Reality for us Today

As Christians, we live in the world, but we are citizens of God’s Kingdom. (Phil 3:20) [3]

The Kingdom of God is present and active now for those of us who acknowledge and submit to His rule. (Matt 6:10)

We are called to live a Kingdom lifestyle.

Jesus demonstrated in the Gospels how we can:

  • Live under Divine command—having an intimate relationship with the Father (John 5:19)
  • Exercise our God-given authority and
  • Present the reality of His Kingdom to the world.

The Kingdom is manifested by the presence and power of the Holy Spirit working in and through us. [4]

Announcing the Kingdom

In the Gospels, an event took place that caused Jesus to overflow with joy and praise in the Holy Spirit.

It occurred after Jesus appointed a large group of 70 disciples to go ahead of Him to places He was about to visit.

Their mandate was to heal the sick and to announce that the Kingdom was close at hand.

The disciples returned with joy, having seen first hand that they had spiritual authority over demons in Jesus’ Name.

Jesus reminded them that He had given them authority and urged them to rejoice in their personal salvation —not in the fact that spirits were subject to them. Then we read:

 ‘At that time Jesus, full of joy through the Holy Spirit, said, “I praise you, Father, Lord of heaven and earth, because you have hidden these things from the wise and learned, and revealed them to little children.”’ Luke 10:21

Let us be a people who bring that kind of joy to the heart of God—children who comprehend and share His Kingdom and the King’s salvation.

Don’t just Anticipate the Kingdom; Live it!

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[1] Daniel foretold the Sovereignty of Christ in Daniel 7:13-14 and dominion handed over to God’s people in Daniel 7:27.

[2] David McCracken has recently been preaching prophetically on the topic, ‘We Are Kings.’ His message is available for a short time on the DMM podcast.

See, Breakthrough Night Pt 1 – We Are Kings on the podcast page here:http://dmm.podcast1.s3.amazonaws.com/david-mccracken-ministries—audio-podcast.xml

[3] According to Vines, the Greek word translated ‘Kingdom’ in the New Testament, ‘basilea,’ is a noun ‘denoting “sovereignty, royal power, dominion,” or as David McCracken puts it: ‘royal authority to rule over.’ The ‘Kingdom of God’ effectively means, ‘the sphere of God’s rule.’ The Kingdom of God is not limited to a time or place and is eternal.

[4] My thanks go to Dr David Strickland who contributed some priceless thoughts included in this article.

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Give Yourself (And Your Spiritual Gifts) Permission To Shine

Last week I shared about how you don’t need a spiritual gift to be a supernatural Christian. And I asked the question, ‘What spiritual gifts do you know that you DON’T have?

But what about the spiritual gifts that you DO have? Can they be expressed in your everyday life?

The Mantle of My Father’s Favour

In Genesis 37, Jacob had a richly ornamented robe made for his favourite son Joseph. Joseph’s coat set him apart and caused him to stand out from the crowd.

Everywhere Joseph went, he wore the mantle that represented his father’s favour.

In God’s Kingdom, each of us is the Father’s favoured son or daughter (Gal 3:26-29). The unique mix of spiritual gifts He has given to us individually is like Joseph’s richly ornamented robe.

‘We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us.’ (Rom 12:6)

I want to live an undivided Christian life—where I am the same person in my daily life that I am in my church life and devotional life with God—not confining my faith to set times and places.

In the Gospels, wherever Jesus went, He was simply Himself, and His prayer life and spiritual gifts were on display for all to see. No matter where He was, He was always ready to impart healing, teach, set someone free or share a word of knowledge.

This challenges me.

Lately, I have become more conscious of not holding back my faith and who I am before others, and this includes being open about the spiritual gifts God has given me.

For a start, this is a matter of personal integrity. As I grow in gifts of prophecy, or prayer, for example, why should I be one way with Christian friends or in meetings, and then shut that part of my life down when I am out and about?

And yet (let’s be honest) many times, this is exactly what we do.

Too often, our spiritual gifts are like a coat that we pull out of our wardrobes when we are heading to church or to any place where we are meeting with our Christian friends. But then, when we leave church, we take the coat off as we walk out the door.

What would happen if we started ‘wearing’ our spiritual gifts everywhere we went—in our homes, workplaces, schools, shops and neighbourhoods?

I want to be like Joseph, unashamed to wear the mantle that my Father has given to me. I want to freely display who I am in Christ, as well as the Holy Spirit and His unique expression and anointing on my life.

Embracing Our Unique Giftedness

The Hunk has a ‘missionary’ gift. Wherever we go he delights in talking to people from other cultures, befriending them and discovering where they are from. (This occurs frequently in restaurants, when I want to have a private, romantic moment).

Whilst the focus of this blog is primarily on prophetic and prayer gifts [1], there are many more spiritual gifts that can be expressed in our everyday lives. For example, I have often admired people who have gifts of hospitality, like Mary and Martha did. (Luke 10:38)

Like the colours in Joseph’s robe, we have different many and varied gifts. Even when we have spiritual gifts that are similar to those of others, the expression and strength of those gifts will be unique to us.

We should never compare ourselves with others or feel inferior in our spiritual gifts.

I hear many people express doubt about having a gift, even though they have used it in church life, have seen others helped and brought closer to Jesus by it, and had its presence confirmed by Christian leaders.

Why does it seem more spiritual and humble to downplay or even deny the presence of a spiritual gift in our lives?

Are You Wearing Your Mantle?

If Joseph had hidden away the mantle of his father’s favour, his brothers may have been more accepting of him.

He may have experienced fewer trials. But he would never have been sent ahead of God’s people to Egypt, or have been used of God to save the nations of that region from perishing through famine.

So take ownership of your unique spiritual gifts. Throw the mantle of your Father’s favour around your shoulders for all to see, and give yourself—and your spiritual gifts—permission to shine.

As I go on this journey, here are some things I am starting to do more of:

  • Sharing openly with others—regardless of their beliefs—about activities that I am involved with that are to do with my spiritual gifts
  • Being honest about interests I have and values I carry that relate to my spiritual gifts
  • Being open to the Holy Spirit to use me wherever I am in my everyday life
  • Using my spiritual gifts, whatever they are, when opportunities arise for Jesus’ love to be expressed through them to people
  • Working on expressing my spiritual gifts (especially those of a revelatory nature like prophecy) in a natural, non-religious way

‘For this reason I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you through the laying on of my hands. For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.’ (2 Tim 1:6-7)

Questions to Consider:

  • What spiritual gift(s) do I know that I have—that have been affirmed and used in the life of my church?
  • What would it look like for me to live an undivided Christian life in relation to my spiritual gifts? Am I doing so?

Do you have any thoughts or experiences to share on this topic? I would love to hear from you.  Leave a comment below. If the comments section is not visible, click on this link and scroll down.


[1] To learn more about spiritual gifts and how to develop your prophetic or prayer gifts, read my e-Book, ‘Grow Your Prophetic And Prayer Gifts.’

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© Helen Calder   2010   Enliven Blog

Now on team with David McCracken Ministries

You Don’t Need A Special Gift To Be A Supernatural Christian

Have you ever declined to do something because you are ‘not gifted’ in that area?

I have.

‘I’m not gifted in that area’ is an apology that I have used often, especially when it comes to things like hospitality or evangelism.

And this can be a very good thing!

In the church environment particularly, it is vital that we serve where we are gifted and passionate and called.

‘Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.’ (1 Peter 4:10)

But—what about in my relationships and my everyday life? Does ‘I’m not gifted in that area’ work as a reason to not speak to someone about Jesus, or not to pray for a family member who is sick, or not to provide hospitality when it is needed?

Don’t be Intimidated by Others’ Spiritual Gifts

We will never truly be fulfilled until we step into the fullness of life that we are designed for—and be comfortable with our own unique expression of spirituality.

I have an old Toyota Camry, which is a vehicle that serves my family and me well. If I am driving and alongside me a hot, turbo-charged Ferrari pulls up, I don’t say, “What is the point of me being on the road? My car is not as powerful as that one.”

My car may be ordinary, it may not go as fast, but it is the only one that will taxi my children around, carry my family’s groceries and get me to work.

In the same way, we must not allow the fact that we do not have a spiritual gift of prayer, prophecy, healing and so on, intimidate us, or stop us living the supernatural life that is our rightful inheritance as Christians.

You and I will connect with people in our everyday life that the pastors and gifted people in our church will not, and occasions for prayer will arise when there is no one present but the Lord and us.

Where is the evangelist when the opportunity arises for you to discuss your faith with a neighbour, or work colleague, or lead your child or grandchild in a salvation prayer?

Where is the prophet when you or someone near you is struggling in your daily life, and needs direction or breakthrough, and could benefit from an encouraging word from God?

A Spiritual Gift, or a Characteristic of Christian Living?

It is vital that we grasp the difference between what a spiritual gift is, versus what is a basic characteristic that we should be exhibiting as followers of Jesus.

For the most part, spiritual gifts are turbo-charged, Holy Spirit-boosted versions of attributes that should be present in the life of every Christian believer.

For example:

  • Every Christian is a witness and can share the Good News about Jesus (Col 4:5-6). However, a person with a gift of evangelism will see more people make commitments to Jesus through his or her ministry than the average Christian.
  • Every Christian can pray (1 Thess 5:17, Eph 6:18). In fact, prayer is foundational to our relationship with God. Some Christians will pray more, and experience more miraculous results, because they have a gift of prayer or intercession
  • All Christians can prophesy (Acts 2:17-18)—i.e., hear God’s voice for themselves and others. Some people can prophesy more powerfully, with greater accuracy and at a higher level, because they have a spiritual gift of prophecy

The same is also true of other areas such as healing (James 5:16), helps (Mark 10:43-45), giving (Rom 12:13) and hospitality (1 Peter 4:9).

This is why, in Ephesians 4, Paul describes the 5-fold (‘Ascension’) ministries—not as exclusive ministers in their area of giftedness—but as those whose primary calling is ‘to equip God’s people for works of service.’ (Eph 4:11-12)

The Basis for Supernatural Christian Living is Not a Spiritual Gift

It is true that some people do have a higher degree of giftedness than others in prayer, healing, prophecy, and so on.

But having a gift is not the basis for you being able to share with someone about Jesus, or pray, or receive a message from the Father for yourself or someone else.

Your ability to hear God’s voice is your right as a son or daughter in His Kingdom.

The source of your authority is the Name of Jesus Christ. What He has accomplished on the cross, and the authority that He has given to you as His committed follower, is the basis of your prayer power.

Further—and this is amazing—you and I have the same Holy Spirit indwelling and anointing us, who empowered Jesus to go about His life and ministry in the Gospels.

I have come to realise that there is NO ONE more qualified than you and I

  • to hear from God
  • to offer a prayer
  • to have a Divine appointment
  • to be involved in leading someone to Jesus

wherever we are in our everyday world.

Some Questions to Consider:

  • What spiritual gifts am I aware that I do NOT have?
  • Have I used the absence of a spiritual gift as a reason to not expect that God could use me to help love and lead people to Jesus, or to pray, or to believe God for miracles in my everyday life?


Father, I want to be fully alive—to be all you have called and designed me to be.

Help me to be comfortable with my own unique, down-to-earth expression of spirituality and to not be intimidated by the spiritual gifts and strengths of others.

Thank You that Your Spirit anoints and empowers me to be a supernatural Christian in my everyday world—to live a life for which Jesus is the only explanation, and to love and lead people to you.

In Jesus’ Name

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Now on team with David McCracken Ministries