How You Can Have An Intimate Relationship With The Holy Spirit

You have to know someone intimately to be familiar with the desires of his or her heart.

And you have to be in close proximity to hear your friend express a quiet wish.

But it takes more than intimacy, and more than proximity, to move you to sacrifice your own priorities in favour of those of your friend.

Only love will move you to lay down your life.

Such was the love of three of David’s mighty men who were close enough to hear him say, “Oh, that someone would get me a drink of water from the well near the gate of Bethlehem!”

Unbidden, the three warriors broke through enemy lines at risk of their lives to fulfil David’s wish. (2 Samuel 23:13-17)

Intimacy With The Holy Spirit

Those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires. (Romans 8:5)

There is a lot of talk about the Holy Spirit in Christian circles today.

Many of us have a great longing to see the Holy Spirit move, or for His power to be released to bring healing, deliverance, signs and miracles.

Kathryn Kuhlman once said,

‘There are literally thousands and thousands in the great charismatic movement who have never become acquainted with the person of the Holy Spirit, only with His gifts.’ [1]

And sadly, that statement is as true today as it was then.

So the question I am asking of you and myself today in response to this statement is, ‘Are you one of the many—the ‘thousands and thousands’—or one of the few?’

Many times we talk about ‘using’ the gifts of the Holy Spirit.

But there is another way of life possible—where we allow the Holy Spirit to ‘use’ us.

This way of living is only going to happen when we give Him leadership of our lives.

  • When we so value His Presence with us, and the relationship that we have with Him, that we cannot bear for anything to come between us.
  • When we are listening, ready for the sound of His voice
  • When we have so become attuned to Him as a Person—to His desires and what grieves and pleases Him…

…that we will respond accordingly [2].

The Fellowship of the Spirit

May the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ and the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you. (2 Cor 13:14)

The Holy Spirit is the third Person of the Trinity—God living in and with us.

He is not merely an impersonal power. The New Testament reveals the Spirit to be a Person with will, mind and emotions.

As well as empowering us, the Holy Spirit communicates and fellowship with us. He guides, teaches, helps, assures and comforts us. [3]

The Holy Spirit is God up close and personal.

The Ungrieved Presence of the Holy Spirit

And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. (Eph 4:30)

Many years ago I read the story of a Chinese scholar-turned-pastor called Hsi [4].  It made a lasting impression upon me.

Pastor Hsi ministered deliverance to a troubled young man called K’ong at a conference.

A missionary who saw Hsi minister in the power of the Spirit pressed a large sum of money into his hands, as a gift towards his ministry.

Hsi received the cash without praying as to whether or not he should accept it. Immediately he felt uncomfortable.

As he went to pray about the matter, Hsi heard cries as the demonised man became uncontrollable once more.

No longer fearing Hsi, the demons in K’ong taunted him, saying ‘You have no power to control me any more.’

Realising that his soul’s response to the money had affected his ability to minister in the Spirit, Hsi went to the donor and returned the cash. He confessed that the sudden possession of a large sum of money had ‘come between his soul and God.’

Immediately he went to where K’ong was causing the commotion and quietly commanded the demons to be quiet and leave—with immediate and effective results.

Pastor Hsi later summed up this painful lesson with the words,

‘The ungrieved presence of the Holy Spirit is more to be desired than abundance of gold and silver.’

How To Have An Intimate Relationship With The Holy Spirit

Or do you suppose that the Scripture is speaking to no purpose that says, The Spirit Whom He has caused to dwell in us yearns over us and He yearns for the Spirit [to be welcome] with a jealous love? (James 4:5, AMP)

I want to have the kind of relationship with the Holy Spirit that Kathryn Kuhlman experienced—and that Hsi valued.

If this kind of relationship with the One who is God present with you, the Holy Spirit, is what you want, here are some steps to help you move closer to Him:

1. Realise that such a relationship—fellowship with the Holy Spirit—is possible

2. Hunger and thirst for intimacy with Him

3. Learn all you can about the Holy Spirit. Study His role, purpose, names, likes and dislikes from Scripture

4. Pray—ask to know Him more and for Him to fill you

5. Make a decision to go deeper in your relationship with God—to be more available to Him

6. Allow God to put His finger on anything in your life that displeases the Holy Spirit—and deal with it


He anointed us, set his seal of ownership on us, and put his Spirit in our hearts as a deposit, guaranteeing what is to come. (2 Cor 1:21)

When I stand before the Father on that Day, He may ask me,

‘What did you do with what I entrusted to you—your gifts and talents, your time, opportunities, relationships, and call?

But there is another question He may ask that is currently challenging me:

‘What did you do with the One I sent you?’


If you can identify with having a hunger for intimacy with the Holy Spirit, or if you have any thoughts or experiences to share on this topic, I would love to hear from you.  Leave a comment below. If the comments section is not visible, click on this link and scroll down.


Notes:

[1] A Glimpse Into Glory, by Kathryn Kuhlman with Jamie Buckingham

[2] Recommended Reading: Romans 8

[3] Recommended Reading: John chapters 14-16

[4] One of China’s Scholars, by Howard Taylor


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Relational Pathways to Intimacy with Father, with Jesus and with Holy Spirit

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A Prophetic Vision: God’s Call To Intimacy With Him

How to have an Intimate Friendship with God


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97 thoughts on “How You Can Have An Intimate Relationship With The Holy Spirit

    • I have been advised by Christian friends to seek the fellowship of the Holy Spirit.
      And I would like help and guidance as to how best I can do this.
      I have recently survived a heart attack, 5 months ago, during that time others I know have been called home, I believe God has a purpose for me and am determined to find it.
      I’ve been a Christian for nearly 50 years but am determined to walk in God’s way but would like help and direction.

      • The answer is seeking to Know Him and Love Him with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind and with all your physical strength, as in seeking to fulfill and obey the Greatest Commandment. He will come to you and invite you into His Secret Place if you search for Him with all your heart and get lovesick for Him. When you know and experience His love this way, you can then love others as you yourself are viewed and loved by God, which fulfills the second greatest commandment.

      • Hi Eric, desire and having a hunger is the best place to start, but I think I’m hearing you ask, what are some practical ways to do this? What does it look like?
        You are seeking increased sensitivity to Him as a person, this means developing your ability to hear His voice, and to respond to Him. Sense His nearness, know what is on his heart.
        Be open to the many different ways that He speaks, find the special times and places that you best connect with God. Develop sensitivity by journaling or finding another way to record what He may be saying to you. You are right, God does have a purpose for your life and the highest one is relationship with Him. You have a wonderful opportunity to be an example of a man walking with God. Be powerfully blessed in the journey and feel free to leave any questions here.

        http://www.enlivenpublishing.com/blog/2015/01/27/10-ways-you-can-hear-gods-voice/
        http://www.enlivenpublishing.com/blog/2010/07/05/how-to-discover-your-spiritual-pathway/
        http://www.enlivenpublishing.com/blog/category/journaling/

        • Hi Helen,
          You seem to have been able to read between the lines and understand what I’m trying to say, I’m quite a tactile/practical person and that may be why I struggle a bit with the Holy Spirit. Also in my early years I was brought up in the Brethren where the Holy Spirit was not talked about much. I believe in Him! I believe He is in me! I am totally committed to the trinity. When I think of God I can conjure a picture of an awesome, might God on His throne, I can easily picture Jesus sitting talking to his 12 friends and the various people we hear about in the bible, but I can’t seem to get a picture of the Holy Spirit and that is what makes it hard to have fellowship with Him.
          When I prepare a talk for church I can feel God (Holy Spirit) suggest to me the way the talk should go and what I should say but I tend to feel this is God speaking to me not the Holy Spirit. I have made a conscious decision that I will make myself available for whatever God has in store for me, by whatever method He wants to use to give it to me. I want to get rid of all the prejudices that I have build up over the years, (to know Him and the power of His resurrection).
          I’ve gone into a bit of a ramble as I do sometimes, my enthusiasm takes over. Thanks again for your help and for taking the time to reply to me.
          God bless
          Eric

          • Hi Eric, thank you for leaving your thoughts, I really appreciate it. In fact, it has set off a whole morning today of thoughts and prayer regarding developing intimacy with the Holy Spirit – from the practical viewpoint. I will certainly be sharing more on the blog on this topic in the near future.
            The Bible shares the basis for relating to the Holy Spirit, and especially relating to Him in His role – you reminded me of this article I wrote a while back which you may find helpful in this regard: http://www.enlivenpublishing.com/blog/2014/01/14/relational-pathways-to-intimacy-with-god/

  1. what i have experienced is this,when I am intimacy with the holy spirit there are some certain things I wouldn’t do,not that i can’t do it but not allowed to do it by the holy spirit.Even when am chatting with friends,spending more time ,i do hear him telling me to log out and go and pray.I am not wearing ear ring,weavon etc not that i dont like it but its a warning from holyspirit.Though i want to be more deep.

    • Hi Jamal, I think it is always great to hunger for more of God, His manifestations and gifts. But highest and best to hunger for the Person of the Spirit Himself, however He chooses to manifest, even His still small voice will delight our hearts.

  2. The last part you said seems true. About how we will give account to God for what we did and also about what we did with Him personally. I never looked at it like that and this is more of a revelation from Matthew 7: 22-23. Thanks.

    Tim.

  3. Whenever i fast and pray my body is always very hot like as if my body is burning with hot fire, i want to know is that sign of the anointing, whenever i feel like that i just feel like laying hands on the sick. please reply!

    • Hi Chukwudi, whilst I understand that a sensation of heat is certainly one sign of God’s anointing, the real proof is in the fruit (outcome) – are people being touched and healed when you pray for them?

  4. Hi Helen.
    A Christian friend gave us all in the group a sum of cash each after talking to us about stewardship (the parable of the talents). He challenged us to take the money and steward it for a month. Some will make more money, some won’t I guess. I see his heart is pure in the matter and the money will be put into the kingdom. I just felt uneasy about receiving it. Now I can’t sleep and my mind is on how I can multiply it – to please him, to please God, not failing – letting him down etc etc. My peace Has gone and I’m wondering if I just need to have more of a revelation of grace and favour – then this whole task would not be affecting me in this way. Should I just give the money back? Any wisdom would be appreciated. Thanks and bless you for this blog.

    • Hi Janine, my personal thoughts are that you are right in releasing the money back to him, explain how you are feeling, doing it in a humble and honouring manner (and privately) is the best way to go as you want to protect your friendship and the group. Hope that helps, praying for you to have wisdom as you do.

      • You can pray and ask Holy Spirit what to do with it. I don’t think you could ever go wrong giving to Jews For Jesus or Chosen People, so you are giving and blessing the Jews, giving to the poor, which the Lord said to do, maybe St. JUDES Hospital for children. Jesus said of such as the these is the Kingdom of Heaven. Or remembering a widow. Just my suggestions.

        • Good idea, Mary Ann! Not sure if that’s what the person giving the instruction had in mind, but you can’t go wrong being open to the Holy Spirit to make a donation somewhere where Godly people will put the money to work to help others :-)

      • I think what I’m hearing from Janine (and I would feel the same way) is that the person who gave the money out placed them under obligation to take actions to do something, that whilst well meant, are not the right thing for her. The best approach would have been to get members of the group to volunteer if they would like to participate.

        • Sorry – I meant challenged and encouraged – we could choose and volunteer to participate or not. I should have not accepted
          It in the first place. It was a lesson in hearing the Spirit and obeying not to take it and not trying to please man for me.

          • Yes I see what you mean now Janine. I love your heart and sensitivity to get on track with this. Be richly blessed in your journey of intimacy with the Spirit :-)

  5. I have longing to learn more about the holy spirit. I want to be filled with the holy spirit. Thanks